Where to turn?

I’m so sorry for your saddness. If she is in horrible pain I believe the Lord will take care of her – She will be pain free and happy..But it leaves family and friends with broken hearts. Missing someone you deeply love is torture.

I do feel you on trying to believe in a loving God when horrible things happen. Rape, Murder – Horrible acts upon young children, do make me wonder sometimes. Honestly if I were in a situation having to deal with a terrible death I wouldn’t know what to do.

“They won’t let me into the gates” sounds promising I think anyway. Obviously she has not passed on but how wonderful to see heaven-It sounds like she is ticked off that the angels won’t let her in – Don’t mean to be funny or anything but I bet she is a great – personable woman with a big heart .. Since you seem to love her so much. If she pulls through – and has no pain that is wonderful – If she is suffering and needs to pass on the only advice I can give for this life is that time heals when you miss someone you have lost. Sending prayers your way.

It’s interesting that you posted this today. I got a call from my little brother this morning telling me that my mother’s medication has been wearing off again, that she has slipped back into her schizophrenia and that my dad took her to the hospital again.

I was trying to figure out how to structure my fast today, and all I could come up with was, “Thy will be done.” I got to church early, so I went to the Relief Society room to play the piano for a little while. When I opened the hymnbook, it opened to #188 – “Thy Will, O Lord, Be Done”. Then I went to Sacrament Meeting, and the sacrament hymn was #188 – “Thy Will, O Lord, Be Done”.

Mysterious ways and all that.

Update:

Right after I typed my previous comment, my baby sister called. The hospital refused to take my mom until she gets violent, so my dad had to take her home and wait for her to take a swing at someone.

Where to turn, indeed.

I have no sound advice on this issue. Death is something I have no clear answers on. Since the deconstruction of my testimony, I really am uncertain on the whole issue is eschatology.

Having said that, I have a few thoughts I have found comforting.

First, read “The Shack.” I am in the process of writing up a review of it, and I’ll post it this week I hope. It’s a brilliant book, and I found many enlightening principles. The premise is a father who has his daughter abducted and murdered. He returns to the crime scene 3 years later and has an encounter with God.

Second, I think we honor those who have passed on in a profound way. I believe their spirit lives on, but maybe not in a literal sense. I think we can make their spirit live on by remembering them in our heart. This, I believe, is what Jesus asks us to do for Him, and it is a profound gift to do it for those we love. Regardless of whether or not your sister will live through this, I think you can honor her by remembering her, and sharing her spirit with others.

I don’t know if now is really the time to try and answer your question Kalola. There will be time for that. I think for now, the best thing is to live the experience and be there for your sister and your family. I really wish you the best. That is such a very hard situation. {hugs}

God being there or loving those in pain? We can’t be sure. We can be sure that we are there, and that we love those who are suffering, and that we do what we can to help them.

God being there or loving those in pain? We can’t be sure. We can be sure that we are there, and that we love those who are suffering, and that we do what we can to help them.

Very well said Valoel.

My sincerest condolences, Kalola. May God grant you peace and comfort.