Ward Singles Representative Angst

Hello everybody. I have another thing that’s been on my mind. I’ve been asked to be a representative for the single adults in my ward in the stake. I had some major reservations about the calling when it was extended to me, and I was pretty honest with the high Council member who extended the call. I told him that I was very frustrated with the ways that older singles are marginalized in the church, and that the feelings and ideas might be “too close” for me to feel like I could really effectively serve in the calling. He asked me to fast about it, and offered to fast with me. I did feel like it would be a good calling for me to accept, and I told him that I would. I was also very honest with him about my remaining reservations. I honestly don’t want to be on another committee that takes months and months to get anything done, and ends up just being a glorified activities committee. I realize that I am only looking at the situation of singles in the church from my own experience and perspective,but I really don’t think that the solution for singles is just to create activities for them.I don’t know.

I’ve accepted the call, it’s been a couple of months, nothing is really happening, and I feel a little too angry about the single situation in the church to be effective. This was the first call in my life that I actually expressed doubts directly to the person extending the call. The reason that I accepted it was that being on the committee would give me a little bit more power to change the situation for people like myself. However, I just can’t shake the feeling that this committee exists simply so that the stake leadership can pat themselves on the back and say that they did something, and doesn’t really care as deeply about the problem as I do. I know that that is uncharitable, and might be “mind reading”, that I might just be cynical right now , but it’s hard for me to believe that they actually care. I’m just rambling now.