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Will someone talk with cwald privately. He hasn’t posted a single comment lately that is constructive in any way whatsoever, and the latest dozen or so have been extremely bitter and attacking. He’s all-capping and essentially yelling in half of them. I understand why, and I don’t want to lose him here, but he can’t continue like this and be contributing to our mission – and I’m the wrong person to say anything to him right now.
I think it should be one of the guys, but i agree with you it’s needed. Gently, though. We like having him here or have in the past, but he’s relentlessly negative right now. The request would probably come across best from me. I’ll talk to him. I talked to Cwald the other day. He was cool with it and understood. Today:
I think we need to open up the valve a little with the MormonThink discussion to let people speak from their hearts. It’s a very emotional situation for the people we support. The threat of church discipline strikes some deep chords of fear and disappointment. If you guys are OK with it, let’s give a little more freedom with that. We can’t let it turn into a rant-fest or outright attacks against the church. It will be hard to control.
I feel like we need to acknowledge people’s fears a little better and let them share those. I will try to monitor the thread and steer the conversation. If you guys have time, help do that too.
agreed. Totally fine with that. I’m hesitant to answer Cwald’s new post on postStayLDS, which is in fact interesting timing with SD’s comments and reaction also, which is a totally different thing all together. I want to respond to Cwald, but I don’t want to sound like I’m answering for and in behalf of all of you as a statement of authority on what this site is.
My view:
– I love having Cwald and DBMormon (as much as they both bug me at times) because I like the divergent ideas, like watching Cadence and Ray exchange messages…but I like it because it is always done respectfully from what I can see.
– We have a rule about not attacking the church or its leaders. So, why does Cwald feel he can’t stay if he can’t do that? Some things are out of bounds. So, stay in bounds but have different views. That’s what I would like.
– He’s asking where to go or comparing StayLDS to different sites like NOM. We can’t get caught up in that. That is for others to decide where our site compares to others. We just need to define our bounds, and let others do their thing. We can’t assume there is some progression of this site-to that site-to that site. Flow charts won’t work on the relationship between the different sites out there.
– If he has chosen not to Stay LDS at all and decided to leave the church…he’s welcome to stay but he’s not really the target of our mission. It may be time for him to move on, not because we’ll shun him, but because he may not find our mission is meaningful to him anymore.
I want Cwald to stay in our midst and add to the discussion as a disbeliever, and go find other sites to fill the gaps he can’t find here. We’re not a one stop shop for all people for all their needs. We’re just not.
Is it safe for me to post any of that as my opinion, or do one of you want to respond openly to the thread? Just thought I’d check first.
Go ahead and jump in. Let the Spirit guide you and fill your fingertips with words of peace and comfort. I’ll see if I can jump in and make a comment or two before I have to leave work.
I had a go at it, just talking from my personal perspective. I think that is all we really do here – share our own views FWTW — with the common goal to help each other build new positive relationships. I don’t think his question is that difficult, except for the “where do we go after we leave here?” part. I don’t touch that.
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