Hercules and other new posters

I just wanted to put out a couple of my thoughts on some new “hot” participants. When I approved Hercules’ first post I edited a couple words to soften it slightly, the “intellectual dishonesty” hit me my first time through but then I forgot about it. I also sent him a PM explaining what I changed and why, he sent a nice reply saying “I understand, I’ll try to stay in the guidelines.”

I know we’re all rushed and do the best we can in the moment. I just try to remember the personal turmoil that many of these early posters are under, and interpret their words from their position — try to read it the way they could have worded it being true to their experience instead of letting hot comments turn us defensive. For me, I would rather them come here if they’re even slightly open to considering a new perspective – so maybe I’d cut them more slack until they have repeatedly proven their stubbornness and closed mind.

I have also traded a few emails with the husband of MissyLynn from Faces East. I posted my email on one of her posts over there, and he actually reached out to me. I have pointed him to a couple topics over here, I don’t know if or when he may register here but honestly right now he is a little hot and frustrated to be completely productive. I told him it’s okay to take time, don’t worry about climbing the mountain in one day. I don’t even know if he is interested in “climbing the mountain” I’m trying not to pressure in any way but come from a position of “this is what worked from me.”

FYI