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What do you make of these verses? What implications does this have for a mixed faith or mixed belief couple? Quote:
1 Corinthians 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Is this the kind of thing a person in faith-crisis should share with their TBM spouse? Is it likely to go down like a lead balloon or offer some comfort and support? And could it reduce discussions about the ‘D’ word?
When I was the TBM and my wife stopped attending, my HT shared this with me and it helped.
I was stupid enough to share it with my wife and she was very upset that she felt I considered myself the one that was better than her and she was some victim I’d be sent on a rescue mission for.
What think ye?
I think the response will vary by person and by phase. I could see this being a helpful “tie-breaker” of sorts if someone is on the edge of deciding for divorce or staying. If there are other reasons contributing to the divorce such as infidelity, abuse, or general incompatibility, I don’t think it would make a difference. On the other hand – I see this as potentially very useful to bishops or LDS counselors when discussing divorce with members. I can see this moderating some zealous bishops from telling a husband or wife to leave the marriage based solely on doctrinal questions.
In some situations I have seen it help and reduce some of the stress the believing spouse was experiencing around uncertainty in the next life and the eternal validity of their union. I wish it was known well enough to immediately come to mind when a believing spouse first learns of disaffection.
I accept pretty much anything that blunts the tendency to divorce over differences of religious opinion – and this seems focused solely on that tendency. I think my parents exemplify this belief. I can’t imagine my angel mother, who was terribly hurt by the church, not being exalted in the end. The BP I have right now is a pretty good guy and he follows this scripture well. He is aware of my disaffection, and he tries to make sure that the callings he extends to my husband are not going to cause problems at home. I am a hall monitor during RS, every Sunday he passes by and greets me, asks how I am doing and moves on. Never attempts a guilt trip. I think he is just happy that I support my husband, and that I bring my daughter. The only meeting I attend is Sunday School, since I still believe in God,I want to study the scriptures. Anyway, it goes both ways. This last year I encouraged my husband to renew his TR and actually go. He finally did when our best friends’ son took his endowments for his mission. So in this case, this is the non-believer that supports the believer
Quote:It goes both ways.
Amen.
So Ray/Outofstep, would you say this is more about an instruction of how spouses can support each other and ‘sanctify’ each other in this life? And not some promise of a faithful spouse being helped/rescued in to heaven by the believer? I’d use the quote about Joseph going to the gates of hell to rescue Emma, but I’ll avoid it given the quote is one of Brigham’s and he actually seems to suggest Emma’s really been sent to hell because she opposed polygamy.
Yeah, I think it goes to the heart of the concept of sealing – the concept, not just the ordinance.
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