I agree with some of this….this part got me:
It means that if you believe in and advocate for the equality of men and women, Mormon leaders would rather have an empty seat.
I could add other phrases from my own experience:
a) as soon as you publicly raise concerns about local leadership, they appear to prefer an empty seat; there is no loyalty when they perceive any form of disloyalty to the church as an institution.
b) when you ask to be released from a leadership calling, they would rather have an empty seat
c) if you violate non-doctrinal cultural norms, they would rather have an empty seat.
On the other hand, I think the author made a false point saying that a faithless father (one not worthy of participating in an ordinance, perhaps due to discipline) has the same status as a woman in the church, who also cannot stand in a circle, etcetera. This is true if the man is not worthy due to some offence that doesn’t attract a penalty, but it’s not true in the case the man has been disfellowshipped or excommunicated. The woman can still do things that the man can’t.
Nonetheless, she did make a kind of touching statement here.