Do you think I did the logical thing

IMHO, you absolutely did the right thing. Maybe take her out a few times and build things slowly to see where it goes. It she’s not interested, she’ll let you know and you can move on. Making out just for the sake of it usually leads to resentment on both sides.

I don’t know her at all, so this is purely guess work, but . . .

It sounds like she wants to make out and is trying every excuse / method she can think of to do so. She sounds manipulative (and, again, I don’t know her at all, so I can’t even guess why, but some of the possibilities are scary, from a relationship standpoint) – especially by texting sexually explicit things and then trying to use making out as a way to make up / apologize for those texts.

The way she is going about this is a terrible way to approach a relationship. I would be VERY careful of how you interact with her. Be straightforward about not wanting to use any form of intimacy or sex (and they are different things) in the way she has proposed. Tell her that, if you are to develop any kind of meaningful relationship, it has to be in a more traditional way – and that she has to stop sending that type of text and suggesting apology sex / making out.

Seriously, it’s highly unhealthy, and you need to know if she’s willing to try to build a fuller relationship that can be healthy down the road. If all she’s looking for is a hook-up, don’t let it happen.

Please rephrase the answer in the form of a question. “What is the liquid that increases base desires and significantly decreases critical think skills?! Thank you Alex trebek! on a more serious note.

A subsequent group of researchers found that drinking increases levels of norepinephrine, the neurotransmitter responsible for arousal, which would account for heightened excitement when someone begins drinking. Norepinephrine is the chemical target of many stimulants, suggesting that alcohol is more than merely a depressant. Elevated levels of norepinephrine increase impulsivity, which helps explain why we lose our inhibitions drinking. Drunken brains are primed to seek pleasure without considering the consequences; no wonder so many hook-ups happen after happy hour.

Although increased norepinephrine offers some explanation of alcohol’s effects, it doesn’t tell us where in the brain changes are occurring. To see which regions of the brain were more or less active while drinking, researchers gave a group of subjects a PET scan after injecting them with harmless radioactive glucose, the brain’s preferred source of energy. Highly active regions consume more glucose, and those regions are brightly lit during the PET scan, whereas less active regions are dimmer.

The regions of the brain with the greatest decrease in activity were the prefrontal cortex and the temporal cortex. Decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex, the region responsible for decision making and rational thought, further explains why alcohol causes us to act without thinking. The prefrontal cortex also plays a role in preventing aggressive behavior, so this might help explain the relationship between alcohol and violence (see my last post). The temporal cortex houses the hippocampus, the brain region responsible for forming new memories. Reduced activity in the hippocampus might account for why people black out when drinking.

Alcohol doesn’t and does change behavior. It increases norepinephrine while decreasing activity in the prefrontal cortex. What you have left is a bunch of base urges (increased) and the filter through which they go decreased. So ya it is kinda true that it acts like a truth in that it doesn’t change you base thoughts or actions, just allows most random thoughts and urges to go unchecked depending on the toxicity level.

Congrats on doing the right thing. But ya it’s embarking to have unfiltered thoughts or actions exposed before your ready to confront or acknowledge them. Regardless of what she really “feels” it’s important to develop things and feelings consciously. Try actually dating and seeing where it goes from there without disabling critical thinking skills.

That’s a great idea presented. Cash in the “I owe you” for a legitimate date if she is ok with that idea.

See where it goes from there. No need to rush or be also overly cautious second heirs sing every detail.

Sex would have citrates complicated undeveloped feelings in either direction. Instead, develop those feelings deliberately and consciously and see where it goes one step at a time. But never make important decisions with yours or hers prefrontal cortex disabled. Anyways, that was a great decision made under conflicted feelings that’s hard for many people to make.

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