You need to start responding

If it wasn’t for friends here, I would not resond ever.

I’m only responding now out of my great respect and admiration for you and SundanceGT.

😳

I feel that way sometimes, too, Mom3. Sometimes I look at the index page and every category has my name. Sometimes it seems as though there are only a couple posts in a day. Sometimes I don’t respond because I don’t want to appear overbearing or seem like a know-it-all. Sometimes I don’t respond because I know most people won’t agree with my response (depending on my mood) or I don’t want to offend someone (I am sometimes apparently capable of doing so). I do go to other forums just for those reasons – but they’re really not better.

Cwald, I thought I was your friend?

I appreciate your comments, Mom3, as well as everyone’s here. Your insights have been very insightful to me as I have been going through this transition over the last year or so.

I really like that this forum is respectful and doesn’t just rip on everything. I think the people here are realistic, but keep positive instead of just tearing things down. The tone is refreshing compared to other things out on the Internet.

I read this and immediately thought, “Who, us lurkers?”

I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I check in to read the board about once a day and usually don’t respond or post – and I have wondered at times why that is. I think that some times it is because I am not sure that what I have to say is worth hearing. Some times it is because I am not sure what to say at all. But most of the time it is because I am constantly feeling like I am walking a tightrope. I am getting to the point that I am starting to become more comfortable with myself and my struggles but I still don’t like to dwell on them. It is easier to ignore them. Playing ostrich and sticking my head in the sand doesn’t solve anything, but it sure feels comfortable! And engaging in the conversation here can be uncomfortable. I’m not saying that the people make me uncomfortable, that’s not it at all. It is the conversation itself that makes me uncomfortable. It is the taking my head out of the sand and reflecting on how I actually feel about many of the topics here that leaves me feeling like I am scratching a wound that hasn’t completely healed yet and if I worry it too long, I will reopen it.

So, there you go, you got me to respond! Seriously though, I do read almost everything that is posted and appreciate everyone who takes the time to post. It feels good to know that I am not alone.

I simply don’t believe in the the mission of stayLDS.

[Admin Note]: We love you, cwald, and you’ve been here a long time – and that long-time participation has saved you from being moderated like a new participant would be moderated if that person said the exact same things you often do. If you don’t believe in and can’t support our mission, then maybe this site no longer is right for you. You’ve earned the lighter moderation you’ve gotten, but if you openly reject us and our mission, and if you openly call people who are trying to make it work crazy . . .

You made your comment publicly, so I responded publicly. I normally would have sent you a PM. There will be NO further discussion of this. We both have had our say.