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    Over the last year as I have been going through my faith transition, there is still one thing that just drives me crazy. I know you guys come across it and wonder what you do to deal with it. It has to do with the expectation to be honest as a “saint” versus the church’s decision on what it does to be “honest.”. I just came across another example the other day that made me want to throw something.

    First of all, we in the church see stuff like this:

    From the “Teaching Help” at the bottom of the Joseph Fielding Smith lesson manual we are using this year:

    “To help us teach from the scriptures and the words of latter-day prophets, the Church has produced lesson manuals and other materials. There is little need for commentaries or other reference material” (Teaching, No Greater Call: A Resource Guide for Gospel Teaching [1999], 52).

    From the “For the Strength of Youth” pamphlet:

    Be honest with yourself, others, and God at all times. Being honest means choosing not to lie, steal, cheat, or deceive in any way. When you are honest, you build strength of character that will allow you to be of great service to God and others. You will be blessed with peace of mind and self-respect. You will be trusted by the Lord and will be worthy to enter into His holy temples.

    Closely associated with honesty is integrity. Integrity means thinking and doing what is right at all times, no matter what the consequences. When you have integrity, you are willing to live by your standards and beliefs even when no one is watching.

    And then I see, how the church is trying to come clean with some of the difficult issues it has created and it makes me roll my eyes. I have been reading the Todd Compton book about Joseph’s polygamy and just read about Zina Huntington Jacobs Smith Young. In it, he remarks how well documented from reliable sources her becoming a polygamist wife to Joseph was. I am sure you are familiar with the story. It’s actually a story I learned for the first time last year that got my goat.

    So, I thought, I wonder what lds.org has to say about her. She was, of course, a very important woman in the Church. I came across this single sentence from an article in the Friend:

    After Henry deserted Zina and the two little boys, Zebulon and Chariton, she married Brigham Young and crossed the plains to the Salt Lake Valley with his family. 

    Yeah, right, no mention whatsoever of what really happened. We have already thrown Henry under the bus, but let’s make sure the tire goes over his head.

    How do you cope with the ongoing level of deception that goes on? Yes, I am using the word deception purposefully, because that is what it is when I see things like this or when we have a lesson in PM some weeks back about Celestial marriage using bits of D & C 132 taught my an institute teacher with no mention of that section’s role in polygamy. I’m over in the corner keeping my mouth shut because I don’t want to upset the group.

    Arg! Sorry, I’m a bit sensitive about this today.

    #289829
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    You bring up a good question, and when it comes down to it, a lot of people are here for the very reason you mention – how to cope with it. There are others who will give better answers because history isn’t my hang up. I do cope with my hang ups by believing that things are changing. Five years ago who would have thought the church would ever post on its own site that JS mostly used the seer stone in the hat to translate the BoM? Who would have thought they’d even admit to his polygamy or polyandry? Yes, I still harbor anger and hurt at the misinformation given over many years by the church – I just watched “The Restoration” video for the first time and it struck me how it showed JS apparently just reading from the plates and felt some pangs of those emotions again. But it is getting better.

    As a side note, and FWIW, I like when people cite D&C 132 and don’t mention polygamy – I don’t think polygamy was originally intended to be a part of it, and I leave it out on the rare occasions I use it.

    #289830
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    Funny you create this thread. Let me tell you a bit about last Sunday.

    During PH the missionaries were put on the spot, minutes before class started they were told that they would be giving the lesson. This sort of thing happens quite often and it always results in the same thing: ditch whatever the lesson was supposed to be about that week and make the topic… drum roll… pause for suspense… missionary work. I can’t fault the missionaries, they were put on the spot and they are going to seize every opportunity to motivate the members to participate in missionary work. The problem is that this happens all too often. I’ve heard way too many lessons on missionary work this year. Far too many. I abandoned ship on PH and went to the primary.

    The primary lesson was on honesty. It was a good lesson but it brought to mind some of the sentiments that you shared.

    The lesson started out with a definition of honesty. Tell the truth, don’t lie, don’t lead people to believe something that is not true, telling the truth even if it is to our detriment, etc. The primary teacher then spun an obvious (to children) yarn. Once all the kids were in on the game the teacher asked if telling stories like that was okay. No was the unanimous answer.

    I probably don’t need to tell you the thoughts that surfaced. In my mind I retold a faith promoting version of the exact same story and asked myself… is telling this type of story okay?

    I went back to priesthood to take my Hasten the Work™ licks.

    In the face of doubts surrounding institutional honesty allow me to be the devils advocate: We should go to church to learn lessons that bring us closer to Christ. Church lessons shouldn’t be history lessons. That’s my way of saying that lessons don’t give a complete story, just the bits that promote faith. That said there are many instances where a story that represents something less than truthful is used to promote faith.

    Tangent vent: I’d love for some fresh material. How about looking OUTSIDE the church for faith promoting material.

    I see the church coming clean with some of the difficult issues (the articles on lds.org) as a part of their repentance process. Leaders in the organization are finally in a place where they have recognized the sin, now they are trying to make amends. The nature of their motives and whether their efforts are sufficient will always be up for debate but I see it as a net positive.

    I suppose the church has just as much to learn about honesty as we all do.

    #289831
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    DarkJedi wrote:


    As a side note, and FWIW, I like when people cite D&C 132 and don’t mention polygamy – I don’t think polygamy was originally intended to be a part of it, and I leave it out on the rare occasions I use it.

    I don’t mean to side track the thread but my understanding is that sec 132 was a justification of polygamy and was meant to try and convince Emma to go along. I don’t have issues with the church and honesty, it’s JS that’s the problem for me.

    #289832
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    I share the frustration. The idea that we can’t look outside church materials for information or other perspectives bothers me. If all I could read were church books, I would be bored to tears. I actually had a quote from a Science Fiction novel in my talk on Sunday, but skipped it because I was short on time.

    In EQ on Sunday the lesson was on Living by Every Word that proceedeth from the mouth of God, which basically turned into a Follow the Prophets lesson. There were some other good observations made during the lesson, but I have a hard time with the follow the prophet mentality. My first internal reaction is: oh yeah, well listening to prophets denied blacks the priesthood for 150 years (probably not a very Christ like reaction).

    Frankly, I cope by coming to sites like this one and the bloggernacle. Without this outlet, church would be much more difficult. I do try to make comments in class that present a mildly different perspective as to not offend anyone or appear too out of synch. I don’t know that it makes a difference, but perhaps we can slowly turn some hearts and minds to some other view points.

    #289833
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    I watched Noah with DW the other day.

    DW did not like it – saying that it was not an accurate depiction of what happened. I totally agree that much creative liscense was taken – but the story from the bible is so scant that we already fill in the blanks with our own assumptions – the movie just provided different assumptions.

    I actually liked some of the themes that the movie invited me to ponder.

    I liked that God’s communication was sparse & cryptic. Even prophets are left to figure things out & fill in the blanks on their own.

    I liked that the good and the evil was found in each individual. Noah’s family brought their hang-ups with them onto the boat.

    I liked the concept that God might place humanity’s fate in the hands of one of our own (Noah deciding whether or not to end his bloodline).

    I liked the concept of having an Abrahamic “test” and passing by deciding not to kill.

    All of these things are interesting to contemplate and bring extra meaning to the story. For me, I love the art of story telling and I am particularly interested in how “based on true events” stories are told. We Mormons tell stories about ourselves as well. Our stories are “based on true events.” Part of the problem is that sometimes we convince ourselves that our perspective is the only true perspective. It is perhaps the greatest crossroad for the church. Asking people to believe in the church of symbolic truth when so long we have been teaching that literal truth is all that mattered.

    #289834
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    Good point Roy.

    #289835
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    I really am going to take a break, but Newlight your aching post called to me. You wrote

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    I know you guys come across it and wonder what you do to deal with it

    For me I had to decide Why I Stayed so that I could then decide How To Stay.

    I could write pages on the ways I work the polygamy issue, or the lesson issues, etc. I won’t – but on the worst days – I cry.

    In between the cry days I pray. I pray for Zina – because I believe we are eternal and right now Zina (and many of her sisters get short changed for their sacrifice), I pray for my present TBM family, friends and ward members. Sometimes that prayer is a yearning that they will learn some things, sometimes I pray that I can forgive them as Christ forgave, sometimes I pray that if I feel compelled to say something, may I do it right. I pray for the church that it will get a better handle on this, and last of all I pray that I can somehow love beyond the pain that this creates in all of our lives.

    So if it’s a sucky day – embrace it. Shout to the heavens, they want to hear us. Tell them what makes you angry, hurt, sorrowful and cry. There is power in that emotion.

    #289836
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    Roy wrote:

    I watched Noah with DW the other day.

    I actually liked some of the themes that the movie invited me to ponder.

    I liked that God’s communication was sparse & cryptic. Even prophets are left to figure things out & fill in the blanks on their own.

    I liked that the good and the evil was found in each individual. Noah’s family brought their hang-ups with them onto the boat.

    I liked the concept that God might place humanity’s fate in the hands of one of our own (Noah deciding whether or not to end his bloodline).

    I liked the concept of having an Abrahamic “test” and passing by deciding not to kill.

    Roy,

    I loved the movie for the same reasons you stated above. I found it profoundly moving and think it might be one of the best movies I have seen in the last couple of years.

    -SBRed

    #289837
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    History has been about telling stories from a particular perspective with a specific purpose for as long as history has been written. Even textbooks, which are supposed to be factual and objective, have done so – sometimes as egregiously as any religious storytelling.

    I am glad the Church is trying now to publish historical accounts that are more accurate than in the past, but I can’t condemn the stories of the past for leaving out details (as important as they are) that don’t contribute to the stories being told when that is a standard almost nobody in the past held. I wish our predecessors had been able to rise above that particular aspect of “the natural (wo)man”, but I am glad the current leadership is trying to be academically accurate – and I’m not hung up on possible motivations. I’m happy for the change.

    #289838
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    The perspective I try to keep is “the church” somehow has to find a way to come together and respond to actions and words of individuals. What JS did in his lifetime is in some ways more public today than it was when he was alive, now the organization is left holding the bag and trying to figure out what to do. I think part of the problem is the organization is made up of many different personalities, and I’m sure they are not all in agreement.

    Even the article in the Friend about Zina was written by somebody, yes it must have been approved for publication but for all we know somebody was upset about the inaccuracy – but was overruled and it was cleared to print.

    I don’t assume anything is clean and cohesive, even if the message is often whitewashed.

    #289839
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    I appreciate all you guys trying to help me through this – these are all good ideas and it helps to know the strategies that others have used. I guess that toughest thing about the history with me is not so much that it hasn’t been fairly presented by my church, but that real people who had qualities of nobility IMO are presented in a negative light. It just isn’t fair, but it is reality and I got to deal with it.

    The first time I read about the Zina Huntington and Henry Jacobs story, I did cry (thankfully, I was alone). I felt so badly about the situation they were in and I projected myself into the story along with my wife and thought about what I would do if the prophet said she belonged to him. I would have looked for another church :clap:

    I suppose this will get better/easier with time. I’ve really only been going through this for just over the last year or so.

    #289840
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    Old-Timer wrote:

    History has been about telling stories from a particular perspective with a specific purpose for as long as history has been written. Even textbooks, which are supposed to be factual and objective, have done so – sometimes as egregiously as any religious storytelling.

    I am glad the Church is trying now to publish historical accounts that are more accurate than in the past, but I can’t condemn the stories of the past for leaving out details (as important as they are) that don’t contribute to the stories being told when that is a standard almost nobody in the past held. I wish our predecessors had been able to rise above that particular aspect of “the natural (wo)man”, but I am glad the current leadership is trying to be academically accurate – and I’m not hung up on possible motivations. I’m happy for the change.

    Sorry But I do not agree that a few mediocre essays that do not even address the issues, buried on the church website qualify as academic integrity. All the church is trying to do is manage the hemorrhaging. I fear it has little to do with honesty. If that were the case they would address the issue head on in a public forum. As it is all we get is apologist of different strips beating the drum for the church. I think it is blatant lying when evidence dictates one thing and you insist it says another. When you continue to perpetuate a story that is contradicted by new evidence you are lying. At a minimum you should own up to the fact that there are discrepancies and admit you do not have all the answers. To weave a crazy narrative that supports your world view in spite of obvious errors in fact is dishonest.

    End of rant

    #289841
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    Cadence, it’s not just a few essays. It’s Pres. Uchtdorf – and the Joseph Smith Papers Project – and the essays – and the Bushmans – and the Givenses – and the upcoming changes to the Church History Museum presentations – and more.

    Yes, absolutely, we have serious issues in our past and in our present, but the changes aren’t just cosmetic. If we criticize the past (and rightly so, in many cases), we need to acknowledge the present, as well.

    #289842
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    Old-Timer wrote:

    History has been about telling stories from a particular perspective with a specific purpose for as long as history has been written. Even textbooks, which are supposed to be factual and objective, have done so – sometimes as egregiously as any religious storytelling.

    I am glad the Church is trying now to publish historical accounts that are more accurate than in the past, but I can’t condemn the stories of the past for leaving out details (as important as they are) that don’t contribute to the stories being told when that is a standard almost nobody in the past held. I wish our predecessors had been able to rise above that particular aspect of “the natural (wo)man”, but I am glad the current leadership is trying to be academically accurate – and I’m not hung up on possible motivations. I’m happy for the change.

    Many people don’t have problems with the past/history but they wonder why the church continues to tell the same incorrect versions of stories today. Perspectives change but often we don’t update the current version of the story to reflect the changed perspective. Juxtaposing a supposedly more enlightened perspective with a perspective that is viewed as outmoded and unyielding is going to create rifts.

    I feel like challenges present themselves more often than they should because we often fixate on instances of church history that have been molded to promote a gospel principle. In some cases it’s more than the detail, the entire story is skewed. So much of church is spent in pioneer/history worship. In some ways it is unavoidable, religious organizations are in the uncomfortable position of communicating and defending their claims to exclusive divine authority. As much as I’d like to see us focus on other things on Sunday, history is going to come up.

    The direction of the church reflects the attitudes of her leaders, the church isn’t going to come around to new perspectives until the majority of the leaders do. Church leaders have the same hurdles to overcome as we do: being taught a perspective from the previous generation, decades of belief in that perspective, black and white thinking, resistant to change, etc. Change certainly takes time and it’s harder to move a group than it is an individual.

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