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Hi there, I just wanted to introduce myself and say how thankful I am to have found this site.
🙂 Just reading just a few of the comments so far has lifted my soul and reassured me that I’m not alone. I was raised LDS, 4th generation, and I never had any questions, doubts, or qualms until I went through a pretty bad divorce 7 years ago, and moved out of my comfort zone of Utah. Since then, it’s like I’ve had a series of moral-dilemma-type-of-thoughts pop up that I realize I need to address. That, combined with my introversion, is making it difficult for me. It’s like all of a sudden I realize that this is a really difficult religion to be a part of with a personality like mine. Don’t ask me how it took this long. I guess it was just something I always accepted. I always just felt like my personality needed to change and that my qualities were “weaknesses” I needed to “make strong.”But I choose to stay LDS because I believe in the core of the gospel, the essentials, the spirit of the Law, and I know in the past when I have been really immersed in it I have been truly happy. I’m also staying because my husband reactivated when we met; he has undergone some drastic lifestyle changes the past few years and is in such a great place. He teaches gospel doctrine, loves it, and he has just been doing so well as a recovered alcholic. I do not want to risk my questions or issues affecting him in any way, nor our 7 month old son in the future as he grows and will be looking to me as an example. I’m just having a difficult time figuring out if a lot of the thoughts I’m having are from my mind or my heart and how to come to terms with it all, and I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s insights and experiences as a source of comfort and direction.
Welcome. I’m glad you found us and you seem like a good fit on our island of misfit toys. Feel free to poke in the corners, ask questions, and comment. I, too, believe in the core principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ and it’s how I cope with the church as a whole. The approach has worked for me.
Welcome nomadicgal. Glad your nomadic tendencies allowed you to wonder here!
In no way are you alone. You might have seen a conversation going on in another thread where some have come away from general conference feeling like the underlying theme is, “Everyone please stop looking at the Internet and leaving!!”. It isn’t as simple as that.
And don’t worry about it “taking you so long.” We can’t question everything all the time or we go crazy with stress. So we set something that fits together well and stop worrying about them. Our minds are full of shelves where we put stuff up to keep the clutter down.
I too am an introvert – not shy and not averse to giving even a talk in stake conference. I just watched this about introverts and don’t feel so bad
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4” class=”bbcode_url”> I had a typical reaction during my faith crisis where I couldn’t see any of the good the church was doing. I am glad that didn’t last long and as time has gone on, I am able to see more of what the church DOES do good and how it can really help some people.
Glad to have you hear and I hope your time here helps you – and you might be able to help others.
Welcome! You are not alone. Life is not simple and we as humans try to simplify it into little boxes. Life will never be contained in those boxes. And yet, we do need a guiding star to reach for…to give us purpose and motivation.
Everyone is walking their own path. We share what has helped and we commiserate when it doesn’t.
We’ll keep the light on for you as you wander.
:thumbup: nomadicgal wrote:I guess it was just something I always accepted. I always just felt like my personality needed to change and that my qualities were “weaknesses” I needed to “make strong.”
Hear, hear. It took me a while to connect the dots but now I recognize that in the past I always made the assumption that extrovertive traits represented perfection and that my introvertive qualities were sins (usually interpreted as sins of omission). Likely because many church programs and callings are tailored to extroverts. If the church is true and by extension all the church programs, I was the one that wasn’t measuring up if the programs weren’t working for me. It was a darned if you do darned if you don’t situation. Participate and feel drained trying to be someone I was not, don’t participate and feel guilty.
I hope I have a healthier attitude/approach these days.
From a fellow introvert, welcome to StayLDS. You’ll like it here. No face to face required and you get to take social interaction at your own pace.
Hi, nomadicgal – Glad you’re here. There’s a lot to ponder in these threads. I hope you get the support and comfort you need, and I’m looking forward to reading your thoughts. Welcome to the site. Really looking forward to your contributions. Welcome, you’re not alone. Yes we’re all on different paths bit sometimes there’s others on your particular path at the same time. I had to laugh with this one “You might have seen a conversation going on in another thread where some have come away from general conference feeling like the underlying theme is, “Everyone please stop looking at the Internet and leaving!!”. It isn’t as simple as that.”
Haha so true LH. I was searching at the library when the “biggest danger to the church is intellectuals”
Thank you all for the warm welcome! I apologize for my late reply, but wanted to be sure to thank you for taking the time to welcome me. :wave:
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