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Ward Stalking on a new level- I do not believe this has anything to do with reactivation, this is just weirdness on a new level.
We have lived in the same house for 2 decades. Our street is happily closed off on three sides. To reach any of our LDS neighbors we have to leave the neighborhood, save one, who lives on the other end of the street. Today we had a ward member in our garage. The door was open, he decided to come in and look at my husbands Harley. None of us were in the garage, but it was open so he wandered in. My daughter heard noises, opened the house door and there he was, as if it was normal to cruise into anyone’s garage on a whim.
This fine brother, has known us these 2 decades, his home is in the neighborhood behind us. Our children grew up together. Our daughters are the same age (and all are grown up). The spouses have been in callings together, and it’s generally Mormon. You know the whole “The ward is our family”. But in all those years, no one has ever just walked in to our garage. Stranger still, this wasn’t his first foray into/near our home with no apparent reason. A week earlier he had been down hometeaching the other inactive man on the end of the road, after that visit he decided to drop by and check out my husbands truck. I truck we have had for nearly 15 years. It’s not for sale, there is nothing wrong with it, and again no one was outside. But Brother FullofSurprises, stopped by my husbands desk to ask if his truck had been damaged, which it had 2 years ago and we have long since fixed. Yes you can see it if you look, but you have to look. My husband, the present rescue project of the ward, was surprised by the sudden interest in the truck. Brother FullofSurprises, never mentioned church or asked how my husband was. He did mention he saw our garage was open when he visited the truck. I am speechless.
Brother FullofSurprises seems like an okay guy. Introverted, but fine. He has even been chill with my husband’s inactive status. Now suddenly my husband’s 15 year old truck and 30 year old motorcycle call to this man who never visits us. A man who lives in the neighborhood behind us and can only get to our house by driving around the block to even see our neighborhood, let alone if our garage door is open.
My own non-LDS neighbors don’t wander in on a whim.
Who knows maybe it’s a new rescue method, but I am calling this one weird Mormon obsession. Maybe he’s looking for our food storage? He doesn’t need to, his wife can feed the entire ward on her storage alone. Any thoughts?
Forget about his LDS status. It is weird. Really weird. Crazy even. Maybe time for a discussion about boundaries .. Followed by a restraining order.
How old is he? Might there be some dementia beginning?
Quote:How old is he?
Might there be some dementia beginning?
Nothing is out of the question in life, I suppose, but he appears lucid at all times. He is 55 at tops, but maybe. I would feel bad if he is having something. If not, it’s way weird to me.
Just you or does he do it to other neighbors as well? I’d be concerned. 😯 He previously stopped by your husband’s desk at work and asked about the truck? Are they colleagues? Doesn’t matter, really, since this behavior is way out of bounds. Too strange to leave unaddressed, I think.
Did he talk with your daughter?
What are you going to do?
I would call his wife, tell her how surprised daughter was to find him in the garage. Mention that DH would enjoy discussing the Harley, but would really appreciate him knocking on the door first, as it would be terrible if someone shot him by mistake. Express lots of concern for his safety. Ooze concern. This makes other people in his family aware of what happened. It stops his actions from being secret. If there are dementia issues, this will give his family a little more information. Then make sure there was no possibility that over the years he got access to a key to your house. If in doubt, change the locks.
If there is a re-occurrence, call the police on the non-emergency line and ask for their advice.
Nibbler – Quote:Just you or does he do it to other neighbors as well? I’d be concerned.
That’s the point, we don’t think he does this to anyone else.
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Quote:Did he talk with your daughter?
A little bit. She told him, he’d scared her and that she was just going to call 911. He laughed. Said he just was looking at the bike. So she went in and got my husband.
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Quote:I would call his wife, tell her how surprised daughter was to find him in the garage. Mention that DH would enjoy discussing the Harley, but would really appreciate him knocking on the door first, as it would be terrible if someone shot him by mistake. Express lots of concern for his safety. Ooze concern. This makes other people in his family aware of what happened. It stops his actions from being secret. If there are dementia issues, this will give his family a little more information.
That is a genius idea. We talked about it last night. We don’t want to create an angry religious issue, because we don’t get the sense that church is involved, but we know him from church and so want to be careful to not project anything. We discussed Ray’s dementia thing and couldn’t figure out how you bring that up, but the idea of pouring concern to his wife may open the door. Maybe he’s been doing weird stuff at home and we don’t know about it.
Thanks for helping us think. Any other ideas will be great.
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