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May as well do an introduction, yeah? I’m in my 20’s and I’ve always been a Molly Mormon until the last few years where I’ve learned of the dark truths of the church and really been open to thinking about them instead of just brushing them off and not thinking about them. Now I’ve realized that my testimony of the church is crumbling, but not my testimony of the gospel itself. And i’m struggling with that because the church is everything i’ve ever known. I’m married with a 3 year old son. So yeah, that’s me! Hi everyone! Hello and welcome. I know a bit about the dark side – don’t fear it 
Lots of folks here that can relate to what you are going through. It does get better. So what is bothering you the most to see if we can be of any help.
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Mainly it’s the culture of the church (the pressure for men to go on missions, not being seen as worthy to date if you didn’t, people assuming that someone did something wrong if they leave early, the corner cutting on missions to get baptisms just for numbers). Mainly mission stuff at the moment. My husband was verbally and emotionally abused on his mission and we’ve been discussing a lot lately how missions aren’t well organized and people aren’t usually prepared for what can really happen on missions in the worst cases. The rules are waaaay too strict. It makes me mad that they aren’t allowed to call family in emergencies or even just to ask for advice. I see no way that could be harmful to the mission to call family when you need advice. I also hate how awful people can become figures of authority. *exhale* ok, I think that covers my main irritations at the moment. But the more my husband and I talked about these last night the more I started thinking about how there were a lot of little things that I don’t really like about the church Sent from my XT1254 using Tapatalk
Bugger, Thanks for biting!
I’m a little older (40-something), but I can definitely identify with your feelings about missions and church culture. My mission was a horrible experience and I came home early. I thought I had pretty much put that behind me, but I’ve recently had two of my own sons return home early too for mental health reasons. The second one is now completely inactive and an unbeliever now, and I’m struggling with what I really believe as well. I’ve started to question just about everything – not just what happened in the past (church history), but what happens today (such as the church policy on SSM).
I really have no one I can talk to in person that understands, so StayLDS has been a great place for me to vent and gain strength from others who struggle with various issues about the church, yet desire to remain LDS.
So sorry to hear about your sons and you having awful missions. I really think it’s hush hush about how bad missions can be. But it’s gotta be more common than it’s talked about because they’re so isolated and stuck to the same person for so long. No alone time, no escape. Working all day. It’s kind of setting them up for mental health problems or even abuse if they get a bad companion or multiple, which happened to my husband Sent from my XT1254 using Tapatalk
I recognize the question was asked, but let’s try to keep the topics orderly. There is an open discussion on the general discussion section dealing with Bugger’s concern about missions and rules. Let’s discuss that there and leave this one more of addressing the introduction itself. Thanks! Always Thinking wrote:May as well do an introduction, yeah? I’m in my 20’s and I’ve always been a Molly Mormon until the last few years where I’ve learned of the dark truths of the church and really been open to thinking about them instead of just brushing them off and not thinking about them. Now I’ve realized that my testimony of the church is crumbling, but not my testimony of the gospel itself. And i’m struggling with that because the church is everything i’ve ever known. I’m married with a 3 year old son. So yeah, that’s me! Hi everyone!
Hi, Always Thinking – Glad you’re here. It’s a great place to get your bearings and regroup. I could say a lot of what’s already sprinkled all over in these threads, but will just leave it at this: I’m happy that my old testimony crumbled. Not sayin’ it’s easy, but I wouldn’t go back. And I can’t, anyway. I really hope you’ll enjoy reading and participating here.
Always Thinking wrote:Now I’ve realized that my testimony of the church is crumbling, but not my testimony of the gospel itself.
Hi, Always Thinking. I’m a lot older than you, but this is exactly how I feel, so I can totally relate. It’s good to have you here.I can really relate with what you’re saying! I too was a Molly Mormon and always batted a blind eye to a lot of the unsavory characteristics and history of the church, until… I’m not sure what happened, I just couldn’t anymore? And it seems after that there was just no turning back. It’s an uncomfortable place to be in to say the least, but I wouldn’t change a thing and go back to my former ways of comfortable apathy. A friend said it well when I told him about my faith crisis – he said “stop looking at it as a faith crisis, but more of a faith transformation.” On the mission note, I agree.
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