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I have not had a chance to read it, but figured I would pass it on. https://www.lds.org/ensign/2016/02/when-a-child-leaves-the-church?lang=eng&clang=tpi ” class=”bbcode_url”> https://www.lds.org/ensign/2016/02/when-a-child-leaves-the-church?lang=eng&clang=tpi I have read it. It is better than nothing about it as it does suggest to have love and don’t beat yourself up if your child “strays”. I do agree with the critiques given by “the mormon therapist”
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/mormontherapist/2016/01/when-my-loved-ones-dont-leave-the-church.html ” class=”bbcode_url”> http://www.patheos.com/blogs/mormontherapist/2016/01/when-my-loved-ones-dont-leave-the-church.html I read into this that it must be happening more if the Ensign is including an article.
Had a sister leave the church 30 years ago…and is still gone. It is sad that it took 20 years before she was loved for who she is.
I think love should transcend who is or is not in the church. I would rather have my sister smoking in my back yard than not within 100 miles of my home because I’ve driven her off…
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Rob4Hope wrote:Had a sister leave the church 30 years ago…and is still gone.
It is sad that it took 20 years before she was loved for who she is.
Been there, done that, regret it. I feel very sad for all the families who have a fresh opportunity and inclination to make this same mistake now.
I’m not sure how much this article really does to make it less likely. There were some good moments, like the grandmother who recognized the girl’s Peace Corps service. Very cool, genuine story. But all the hand-wringing and “even Heavenly Father lost a third.” Blech. I want to shake people and say, again, been there, done that. Don’t waste one more precious moment of life not fully loving and accepting your family!
I generally liked the Ensign article, especially take an eternal view. I interpreted that to mean that “things change” and “maybe we don’t know everything.” It’s probably human nature to distrust and drive away people that aren’t like us, including (unfortunately) our own children. I don’t think this is a problem unique to the LDS church, I know other Christians and Muslims who have similar attitudes. In fact I know anti-mormon parents who won’t accept their mormon kids. I’m an adopted child who found his birth father as an adult. My birth father and his wife (not my birth mother) are full blown anti-mormon and the wife won’t even talk to me because I’m a blind mormon robot.
The world needs more love.
Quote:◾ Decisions about spiritual paths are not “rebellious” or “a period of wandering.” They are legitimate and personal decisions. Would we say someone who converts to Mormonism is “rebelling” against their parents & communities, or “wandering” from their faith of origin?The above quote from the Mormon Therapist was my initial thought after reading the article. We hear stories of early pioneers and converts to the church that where cut off and disowned from their family after joining the Mormon church. They are celebrated precisely because they never turned back. They stood on their convictions and moved forward – even without the support of their family. Oh what a difference perspective can make.
Rob4Hope wrote:I think love should transcend who is or is not in the church. I would rather have my sister smoking in my back yard than not within 100 miles of my home because I’ve driven her off…
I agree with Rob. That is an easy answer for me. They are my family. I don’t care what religion they are.Roy wrote:Quote:◾ Decisions about spiritual paths are not “rebellious” or “a period of wandering.” They are legitimate and personal decisions. Would we say someone who converts to Mormonism is “rebelling” against their parents & communities, or “wandering” from their faith of origin?The above quote from the Mormon Therapist was my initial thought after reading the article. We hear stories of early pioneers and converts to the church that where cut off and disowned from their family after joining the Mormon church. They are celebrated precisely because they never turned back. They stood on their convictions and moved forward – even without the support of their family. Oh what a difference perspective can make.
What a timely quote. I was able to pass it on to one of our daughters. A friend came to tell her that she’s stepping away from the church. My husband and I emphasized showing her not just love, but alsorespect. I like this quote as well. It changes the paradigm of what I have always been taught.
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