Disapproved another post

I disapproved the following post by BrucePace for content in the final paragraph. Am I being overly sensitive? I’m not a prude. Really. What is it with people suddenly deciding to share intimate details of their sex lives?

Hello,

I am really struggling in my marriage of over 27 years. My wife has, for lack of a better way of describing it, has become bored with her life. We were both born into LDS familes are are still active today. I hold a current Temple recommend but she hasn’t for more than 5 years.

That being said, she feels like she has been sheltered her whole life and was the molly mormon type all her youth and early marriage life. Now she has reached a place where she wants to experience other aspects of life that would be in conflict with many of the gospel teachings. One major thing causing the current struggle is that over the last year, she lost 75 lbs. and looks AMAZING!@! Unfortunately, other guys (and girls) have noticed this too and are giving her a ton of attention that she is not only not used to, but it gives her a tremendous amount of self-asteem. The fact that complete pigs that are interested only in getting into her pants give her the time of day and compliment her looks (sometimes in the most base ways) is exciting her and making her happy and she does NOTHING to disuade them, is a huge concern for me. However, by far the worst of all, and I know there is much worse that could have happened, is that she met a guy who she finds very attractive and who is clearly attracted to her, and over the weeks of their correspondence he has clearly indicated to her that he wants to have sex with her (and she has basically said if she available she would too). Anyway, the worst is that she actually has gone on 3 dates with him (the last of which got cut much shorter than expected because I found out) and she absolutely would have continued to go out with him if I hadn’t found out. She has also admitted that if she had continued seeing him, sex was inevitable.

Currently, she swears that she has given him up for the sake of saving our marriage (and I know it sounds naive but I currently believe her). However, she is not happy with her life right now and I’m certain that if nothing changes in the next few months, she will want to separate. We have talked a great deal about what kinds of things she would like to do to try to satisfy her current desires and not jeopardize our marriage. Many of them are in conflict with church beliefs and temple worthiness. But my marriage is the single most important thing in my life and I want to save it by ALMOST any means necessary. So my reason for posting today is to see how other people feel about the things I’m contemplating.

The biggest conflict with church teachings is regarding sex. We have discussed the possibility of having a 4-some or 3-some. We have also discussed many types of voyerism that do not involve physically interacting with others, but being present while sexual acts are being performed. Neither of us have ever had any alcoholic beverages and we have discussed the possibility of at least trying it once. There is more, but these issues will suffice for now. I am really struggling with whether engaging in these activities, knowing FULL well what the likely church repercussions would be, can be justified under the concept of saving my marriage. I also understand and am NOT in any way naive to the fact that engaging in such acts may have no affect on whether or not the marriage lasts, but given the current state of things, I am certain it will fail. I would go to my own Bishop, but I feel like I would be throwing my wife, who I love with all that I am, under the bus, and I cannot do that at this point.

I did tell him he could repost without as much graphic detail and I said what I would have said in the open forum: they need to see a marriage counselor.