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March 16, 2016 at 3:53 am #210625
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GuestA few quotes from Chapter 1. He starts with some great observations about the problems in our culture, including how many members treat those with doubts:
Quote:Honest questions and sincere doubts are thus equated with a lack of faithfulness.
And how those with doubts perceive church members:
Quote:Every time they hear a testimony, talk, or lesson that doesn’t square with what they are reading online, it reinforces the sense of the church’s duplicity and the naivete of ordinary members.
His book is peppered with these types of observations which helps believers (like himself) empathize more with those who have doubts.He cautions against the practice of telling people to just pray or read scriptures:
Quote:A formulaic answer demonstrates a lack of concern for the person and his actual problems. While reading scriptures and praying are always necessary, they are rarely sufficient for the range of profound human dilemmas, whether it be financial disaster, a failing marriage, death or chronic illness, or a crisis of faith. . . Avoiding tough situations, dismissing concerns as insignificant, or giving prepackaged answers without thought or care all come off as naive or worse, as insensitive and uncaring. When the people we love are in pain, our first response is not to blame them or dismiss them or trivialize their hurt.
He uses an analogy to explain the role of religion in a secular age:
Quote:Even if we personally spend most of our time consciously rowing in the raft of religion, we realize that there’s a difference between religion being the raft (as it is in modern times) and religion being the ocean (as it was in premodern times).
He debunks the secularization theory:
Quote:They argued, and found evidence to support their claims, that religion would disappear as society modernized and people became more enlightened. Science would explain all the mysteries of the universe that prescientific humans could only make sense of by inventing religion. Religion, in this view, was a vestigial remnant of antiquity–the societal equivalent of the human appendix. The high point of this way of thinking came in the 1960s. Even Time magazine, which had traditionally been friendly to religion, printed a cover that asked the penetrating question–displayed in blood-red letters against a jet-black background–“Is God Dead?”
He points out that people don’t leave religion because of secularism:
Quote:What often seems to be the case is that people leave because they feel that their religion isn’t what they want or expect it to be. Therefore it is overly simplistic to claim that people leave churches because they are lured away by the siren song of secularism. Recall that most of the nones still believe in God and aren’t giving up on spirituality all together.
For those reading the book, what quotes leaped out at you? Were any of these helpful?
March 16, 2016 at 4:47 am #310105Anonymous
GuestAll of these quotes were helpful to me as I began the book but it was the sentence that preceded your second quote that I could most relate to.
Quote:Many of these people end up staying in the church, usually for family reasons, but they withdraw into themselves.
There really isn’t anyone there to talk to and when you participate either teaching or speaking you’re always trying to navigate what you believe, what you don’t and what’s somewhere in between.March 16, 2016 at 9:14 am #310106Anonymous
GuestMy quotes Quote:By its very nature faith is not based on tangible, empirical proof. Fundamentally, faith is a matter of hope and of trust, not much different than love.
Quote:Essentially, we must recognize at the outset that in the majority of these cases, not only is the pain and struggle read, but so are the issues.
Quote:After having spent time in the scholarly trenches with many if not all of the issues that typically trouble people, and as one who has had countless conversations with those who feel their faith is teetering on the edge, I can strongly assert that the challenges are real and that most of the people who face them are earnest.
How we deal with doubt in the church today is one of the most pressing tests of our collective discipleship.March 16, 2016 at 3:54 pm #310107Anonymous
GuestThese all seem so spot on, it confirms some of my feelings I’ve had this year that this is more and more common, more understood even by faithful members and leaders, and cannot be ignored or brushed off as just “the person is the problem because of lack of faithfulness” and dismissed. When I think of the stages of grief, I believe the church leaders and faithful parents and spouses may grieve a person who is doubting and losing commitment to church and initial stages of denial set in, and blame and anger…but we are moving past those because more and more there are books like this and real life examples of multiple families that indicate there is more to it, and there are real valid reasons why people have questions and faith trials.
It is my experience as I remain in the faith.
I also am reminded that while I support others here in this forum and in my ward and family who talk to me about their journeys…I too cannot dismiss them too easily and just say “Don’t worry about it, just StayLDS, use the cafeteria approach, and don’t care what others think”. That is also uncaring to some.
I think people who are struggling go through the struggling phases, and can’t be told what to do. Just supported as they go through it. It isn’t easy to have something like your faith and religion be drastically adjusted … it hurts.
People need support as they do this.
Likewise, the parents or family members who are faithful and are in pain seeing a loved one change faith also need support and love as they go through a change in accepting it is OK and not all is lost.
The common factor is love and patience and understanding.
I like this book.
March 19, 2016 at 5:00 am #310109Anonymous
GuestSo annoyed. My first response took me so long that I was kicked off and I hadn’t saved it. :sick: So here’s the short version.Thanks, hawkgrrrl, for doing this review.
I’m not reading ahead, so I know he’ll probably develop these ideas as we read on.
I’ve only been in Patrick Mason’s presence once, but he was very approachable, and I’m really glad this got published. I hope it does spark “pastoral dialogue.”
Maybe you all can help me with a persistent stumbling block of mine in these conversations: lumping all doubt together, and what we categorize as a doubt in the first place.
Quote:“For most doubts, there are no magic words or ready-made formulas that will immediately make them go away. Doubt is thus less a problem in need of a solution than a common part of the mortal experience that should, like all things, be treated with charity and ultimately consecrated to God.”
I just don’t think that it moves the conversation forward very much to be putting the hot-button short list of Internet-era Mormon doubts into the same category with the profound unknowables like the very existence of God or the reality of a resurrection. I can see that they all affect each other, but I’ve felt from the get-go that putting them all together like this is a way of waving people off and, to some extent, dismissing concerns.
Quote:“Stigmatizing doubt to the point that people feel guilty for even having questions is not conducive to spiritual growth.”
But if we first
definedoubt as any thought divergent from the manuals or GC talks, isn’t spiritual growth still blocked? I agree when he says:
Quote:“How we deal with doubt in the church today is one of the most pressing tests of our collective discipleship.
Quote:“If you or someone you know has doubts or questions about historical or doctrinal issues in the church, there are answers to be found….good answers, intellectually rigorous and honest answers, faithful answers.”
I wish we could say that there is documentation, teachings, dogma, etc.,
that we can use to find our own answers, because then we feel respected, and we canQuote:“…talk faithfully, constructively, and honestly about difficult things.”
And, FYI, there are 30+ pages of notes, recommended reading, and indexes at the back.
I’m looking forward to reading with you all.
March 19, 2016 at 5:53 am #310110Anonymous
GuestAnn: I think your observation about lumping all doubt together is an interesting one. It seems to me that he does separate this quite a bit as the book progresses. I think he is focused (in Ch. 1) on helping to create some empathy among believers. The book doesn’t really seem written for the doubters so much as for those who deny they doubt (at least in Ch. 1). I’m not sure if that’s really his intent, but that was how I read it. March 19, 2016 at 5:47 pm #310108Anonymous
GuestBefore even getting into chapter 1, I had a comment or two about just the Intro. It is worth noting this is from Deseret. A few other books have been carried by Deseret, but this is one of the biggest issues about doubt/questioning/nuanced members.
I look at this in two ways.
One is that it shows a positive change in the church and the leaders. It help allow questions to be aired with other members by potentially reducing the stigma. Coming from Deseret I think many more TBM’s will read it and that is a great thing. This is a book I can ask my bishop and Stake President to read. He even states
Quote:Essays can be disagreed with and still be a faithful member
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Then there is the more cynical part of me that says this issue is being forced on the church and it is not nearly as proactive as it is reactive.
Then on to Chapter 1.
He does then frame a common faith crisis scenario. As mentioned above, there is not “one” script for this, but he frames a common path by talking about Hans Mattsson and how after years of serving and defending the church he finds out most of what he argued against was actually true and how he felt the church had lied to him. It is helpful for a TBM to have a better understanding and not just default to “they just want to sin and have a excuse to walk away from the church.”
I do like that he addresses the knee-jerk reaction of some TBM’s to other’s doubts to just do the stuff your are supposed to do and stop doubting.
Quote:But is’t not that simple. Remember, most of these searchers are already active Latter-day Saints who have spend counless hours reading their scriptures, praying, and serving. They are RM’s, Gospel Doctrine teachers, RS Presidents, bishopric members.
He also talks about how much more open the church is about discussions. I agree to an extent and have a bit of my “2 sides of the coin” as above with it being positive, but probably mainly thrust upon the church with no other choice.
March 20, 2016 at 4:06 am #310111Anonymous
GuestI picked up this book with a hope that I can pass it along to TBM members and leaders. It’s not the perfect mode, but of the ones we have had I find it the most useful at present. Most of my highlights during this read of the book will be with that focus in mind. I am glad others are adding in other stuff (Yeah Ann), I tend to get narrow in my reading when I have a selected purpose.
March 20, 2016 at 10:07 am #310112Anonymous
Guestmom3 wrote:I picked up this book with a hope that I can pass it along to TBM members and leaders. It’s not the perfect mode, but of the ones we have had I find it the most useful at present.
I asked DW to read this with me with the hope that she could understand more of what I am experiencing and to know what she can do to help me and what is not helpful. Reading the intro was fine, but chapter 1 did not go well. From the very beginning (with the story of Hans Mattson), she was very uncomfortable. She does not understand why I can’t just choose to believe and not worry about all the things that I don’t understand.
March 21, 2016 at 4:56 pm #310113Anonymous
GuestFaithful Skeptic: There was an interesting post done by Andrew S at W&T: http://www.wheatandtares.org/20221/seeing-mormon-faith-transitions-as-social-class-movements/ One thing I took away from that, and it’s something I’ve really been thinking about a lot lately, is that we want different things from church. We really aren’t all getting the same things out of it, and we don’t want the same things from it. We talk past each other. My husband and I are probably fairly close on some of this stuff, but we also want different things from church from what I can see. I really like some of the intellectual aspects of Mormonism as a faith. He’s not interested in that even remotely. He also likes the doing aspect, which I find sort of meh. I’m more into the relationship aspect. I have a hard time imagining not staying in touch with my ward family, all of whom are pretty great people, whatever I may think of their approach to the faith. He also likes the relationship aspect, but he’s a lot more intolerant of certain types of attitudes than I am. I find some things interesting that he finds irritating.
For your wife, her saying you should just “choose to believe” probably makes perfect sense in her context (maybe she’s focused on the physical structure and you’re on the intellectual structure). You can choose to believe in the physical structure and yet simultaneously not believe when approached from the intellectual structure. It’s a paradox really, but you can also follow the Word of Wisdom while not believing it was divine yet while believing it’s good (enough) for you.
March 21, 2016 at 9:32 pm #310114Anonymous
GuestI really enjoyed the Andrew S. post that Hawk linked. It really speaks to the differences between how individuals see the world/church and what they get out of it. Also funny that many of us try to “fix” people in the other groups by changing their lens orientation (IOW “Just don’t worry about it and keep doing stuff”, “Talk to these apologists they have most of this stuff sorted out”, and the StayLDS/relational fix of “look at it with nuance/cafeteria approach/or the sense of community.”
April 1, 2016 at 9:47 pm #310115Anonymous
Guesthawkgrrrl wrote:Faithful Skeptic: There was an interesting post done by Andrew S at W&T:
http://www.wheatandtares.org/20221/seeing-mormon-faith-transitions-as-social-class-movements/ Thanks for pointing out this article. I started to read it on my phone, but didn’t get all the way through it until now. I really enjoyed it and it helps to see things from a different context.
hawkgrrrl wrote:For your wife, her saying you should just “choose to believe” probably makes perfect sense in her context (maybe she’s focused on the physical structure and you’re on the intellectual structure). You can choose to believe in the physical structure and yet simultaneously not believe when approached from the intellectual structure. It’s a paradox really, but you can also follow the Word of Wisdom while not believing it was divine yet while believing it’s good (enough) for you.
I think you’re exactly right. I’m moving away from the physical structure to the intellectual structure orientation, but she is still very focused on the physical structure. I’m hoping to make it to the relationship orientation, where my intellectual concerns don’t matter so much. Right now they are killing me and my relationships. I can (and do) believe in certain things (like obeying the word of wisdom, law of chastity, having FHE, attending church, etc.) from a physical orientation, yet not sure any of it is divinely inspired, but good enough for me.
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