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May 13, 2016 at 7:52 am #210739
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GuestHi everyone! I am a member of the church and after careful thought, i have come to the conlcusion that i’m agnostic about many things in the LDS church. All the historical problems that add up really makes it hard to take things literally. I really value the community, the tribe and I have a deep belief in God. That belief has only gotten deeper since i stepped away from seeing/believing/reading/understanding everything literally. But thats another story:)
Im just writing the above, so you understand where i am coming form. I have discussed this in other threads here, but i’ll just leave it at that, since this post isnt about a faith journey so much.
I have been wondering a lot about thithing lately. I am married with two kids. Boys.
We are not rich by any stretch, and live in an appartment. But we have found a small house that we might be able to pay the monthly morgages on. Probably.
Right now i pay net tithe. (My wife is not active LDS and pays no tithing) And i’m really contemplating doing surplus tithing instead. I would love to give my two boys the space to be boys, and really enjoy a garden and ALL the positive things that come from that. I know this seems like small deal to some, but i believe that growing up as a normal active boy in an appartment vs a house with a garden, really allows for different ways of playing/expressing oneself. I dont know if you know what i mean here:)
Basically i would love to know how you came to your conlcusion regarding paying tithing on surplus or if you didnt. I would love to know your thought process, and your spiritual process.
I am on the fence, and will start praying and thinking about the matter. To see my kids grow up in a small house with a small garden in a small but lovely town, would make me so happy. I really believe this specific house and location (the countryside) would be such a blessing to them! I see the value as something more than a fancy new car or whatever. This could be something that i really believe could feed their soul to some extent. Its a great neighbourhood with other kids. Cats running around in the streets, close to fields etc. Just a great place for kids to be, and its a cheap house (and not big). Its not an excess thing in my book.
If i decide to pay on surplus, i expect to get a call from the bishop at some point. Im not really ready for that yet. Or is what you pay a completely personal thing? Will the bishop or anyone higher up ever see what you pay?
Thanks:)
May 13, 2016 at 10:33 am #311628Anonymous
GuestI have read the bishop’s/Stake Presidents handbook of instruction and it does not go into this detail. In fact Bishops are asked not to dive down into these questions as the church leaves it up to you. I would be very surprised if you ever would have a bishop ask you about gross vs. net. In my ward I have a friend that has held most every calling someone can have and is as gung ho about the gospel as could be. In high priests group last month we had a lesson on tithing and the clear conclusion was that each person has to decide for themselves and it is between him and the Lord. There was disagreement with the “well do you want to have gross or net blessings?” as seeing paying tithing equivalent to playing a slot machine and expecting and times to get a big payback.
I also look at your motives for even considering moving to gross and they are motivated by a loving parent wanting to provide a better environment for his children, not someone that is greedy and wants more money.
It does not matter what I say as this is between you and the Lord, but I say, “Enjoy your house!”
May 13, 2016 at 10:37 am #311629Anonymous
GuestHehe. Thanks! 
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May 13, 2016 at 12:10 pm #311630Anonymous
GuestI say whatever feels right for you. I have enjoyed our children growing up in our house with our garden. May 13, 2016 at 12:31 pm #311631Anonymous
GuestThere was a discussion about the TR questions in 2012. One of the topics had to do with the tithing question (10a) Go to this link:
http://forum.staylds.com/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=6117 This discussion really helped me to move through this issue & others.
My suggestion is to make a decision, pray about it, ask for guidance & move ahead with your decision.
Thanks again to: wayfarer.
May 13, 2016 at 1:28 pm #311632Anonymous
GuestYour choice. No need to explain to anyone or justify your choice. The specific thread about tithing in the post to which Minyan Man linked was a great disucussion. The link is:
May 13, 2016 at 1:48 pm #311633Anonymous
GuestBear wrote:I would love to know your thought process, and your spiritual process.
My spiritual process? As time went on I wanted a more personal relationship with god. I realized that I had many intermediaries between me and god. In my quest for a personal relationship I tried to remove the intermediaries until the relationship became one on one.
Everythingwas between me and god, tithing came as a part of that package deal. Quote:The simplest statement we know of is the statement of the Lord himself, namely, that the members of the Church should pay ‘one-tenth of all their interest annually,’ which is understood to mean income. No one is justified in making any other statement than this.
Is still in the handbook with relation to tithing. It’s between us and the lord.
LookingHard wrote:There was disagreement with the “well do you want to have gross or net blessings?” as seeing paying tithing equivalent to playing a slot machine and expecting and times to get a big payback.
The ole net vs. gross blessings. You know what… “surplus blessings” sounds pretty good to me.
May 13, 2016 at 2:22 pm #311634Anonymous
Guestnibbler wrote:LookingHard wrote:There was disagreement with the “well do you want to have gross or net blessings?” as seeing paying tithing equivalent to playing a slot machine and expecting and times to get a big payback.
The ole net vs. gross blessings. You know what… “surplus blessings” sounds pretty good to me.

Well we could look at it as making sure we don’t obligate the Lord for blessings we don’t even have room to receive. Or maybe I should up my tithing percentage above 10% and get a bigger house and storage shed so that I DO have room to receive all the blessings.Bear – if you don’t know me well you might not realize I am being quite sarcastic and hoping that you chuckle a bit when reading this.
May 13, 2016 at 2:54 pm #311635Anonymous
GuestReally???? 
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May 13, 2016 at 5:12 pm #311636Anonymous
GuestI decided surplus tithing was viable for a few reasons. 1. D. Michael Quinn, in his book “Extensions of Power” traced the history of tithing, from the definition of 10% of “increase” [according to the 19th century definition] to a variety of other methods, to the current cultural norm of 10% of gross, of which net has become culturally acceptable — tied to the temple recommend.
I saw how the definition of tithing changed as leaders ran into financial difficulties in the funding of the church. It showed me how 10% of gross or net was less of a firm, inspired commandment, and more “policy” by managers who sought better and better ways to fund church operations.
The current method/definition worked, and I believe it has generated strong surpluses for the church, they are not willing to give up by a relaxed tithing policy.
Anyway, after you take “divinity” out of the definition, it becomes easy to use a definition that fits your own conception of what tithing should be.
[Note: Michael Quinn is a former member of the church who I think was excommunicated as part of the September 6 purge of intellectuals, but he did present credible, scholarly research. The fact that he is no longer a member of the church didn’t change the quality of his reasons and facts he shared.]
2. I compared the emphasis on self-reliance in the church, with the mandate to pay tithing even if it makes you short of basic necessities like food, shelter, etcetera, making up the difference on church welfare.
That seemed incredibly wrong to me — that self-reliance is important, but only if it doesn’t interfere with paying your tithing. Given my own belief that the church tends to love itself more than its individual members, it seemed easy to tithing on the amount you have left over after you pay for the basics in your life. And its up to you, to decide what those basics are.
We all know you put your own mask on before you put the oxygen mask on your child.
3. I saw families who would pay tithing all their life, run into financial difficulties later in their lives, and then go to the church for help. Our Bishop wold ask them to cut their cable, and other minimal comforts. They would expect them to do chapel cleaning and other things. It just seemed wrong that members are expected to give up so much for their whole life, but as soon as members need help financially, there are strings attached to the church help.
4. I tried to get access to church counseling over a church-inspired trauma in my life. And they were booked. No places available. Yet they own 5% of the state of Florida. Should not these tithing funds, and even funds held by church business interests be used to help provide members with the services they need for inner peace and spirituality? Should they not be be used to make the members lives better? In general, I have found the church rather tight-fisted..
5. Although some Bishops can reason out what your tithing should be based on market rates for jobs like yours, or things you tell them, they don’t know income. So, there is a certain amount of conscience involved in paying tithing.
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Check out the FP letter from the 1970’s regarding tithing. In church books they conveniently leave out the last sentence, but it belongs in any interpretation of tithing as far as I can see:
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For your guidance in this matter, please be advised that we have uniformly replied that the simplest statement we know of is that statement of the Lord himself that the members of the Church should pay one-tenth of all their interest annually, which is understood to mean income. No one is justified in making any other statement than this. We feel that every member of the Church should be entitled to make his own decision as to what he thinks he owes the Lord, and to make payment accordingly.Income has different meanings, but in my understanding of business, it is sales-expenses= operating income. Operating income minus taxes = net income. That to me, means surplus.
I could go on, but these things make it very easy for me to adopt a version of tithing that I think is appropriate for me.
And ultimately, whether I pay at all is my choice.
May 13, 2016 at 6:05 pm #311637Anonymous
GuestBear, this can be a big question, because it is interpreted in different ways by different people. It’s really up to you to figure out what you feel is right for you and your family. I always ask myself WHY I pay tithing. For some people, it’s to receive blessings, others talk about ‘fire insurance.’ Personally, I’ve never seen a great increase in blessings based on the amount that I’ve tithed, and I don’t give to receive blessings anyway. I just want to give back and do something to benefit others. So, I have personally determined that how I pay tithing is between God and me. I don’t particularly care for the way that the church spends it’s money, and isn’t forthcoming about where our tithing is going, so I choose to pay my tithing all into the fast offering fund, the perpetual education fund, and to a local women’s shelter. I don’t put anything in the actual tithing fund, but I still consider myself a full tithe payer. If the bishop actually looked at my tithing settlement receipt at the end of the year, he would see a big $0 under tithing, but I don’t hesitate to answer that my tithe is ‘full.’ Even in Christ’s day, when people brought their tithes to the temple, there were different horn-shaped baskets where they would deposit their tithes. The money that went into the different horns were used for different purposes, such as payments for sacrificial animals, wood for the offerings, etc. Some of these were mandatory, and others were voluntary after the mandatory payments had been made. I like to think that it’s important to give, for the sake of giving. But, I don’t feel an obligation to give x%, or to give to a specific fund. It’s completely between you and God where your money is going, and how much you are giving. I appreciate that it is left open, as it should be. May 13, 2016 at 8:00 pm #311638Anonymous
GuestIMO, He needs to start getting it from the government. Take it off the top of their cut. Romans 13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.
May 13, 2016 at 10:31 pm #311639Anonymous
GuestOne quick comment – I’ve received more financial blessings since I stopped tithing on gross than before. I was worried the “windows of heaven” would slam shut but on the contrary, my financial blessings are the same or greater after applying my own method of tithing. Spiritual blessings are harder to quantify, and maybe those have slowed down (my faith crisis and my redefinition of tithing started about the same time). May 15, 2016 at 1:31 pm #311640Anonymous
GuestEverything scriptural and from early church leaders describes something more like surplus… a phrase sometimes used is for those “who have means” to pay tithing, which only implies after expenses are met. To me, paying surplus tithing is the only way that harmonizes with scriptures and with the broad measure of church teachings (e.g., to save money, to not get into debt, to have food storage, to give charitably, to have large families, etc.), and is balanced across all economic classes and family sizes and nationalities, and resonates to me with the fair and “yoke is light” God of my understanding. And apparently, according to its original definition and application, even surplus tithing may be more than intended, in many cases. There’s a quote found just recently that will soon be published in the Joseph Smith Papers Project from Bishop Partridge (who was there when the D&C 119 revelation was given and was the bishop of the church at the time – so he should know), where he describes the “interest” of D&C as applying to net worth as if an investment. So if your net worth is $1,000,000, you would take 6% interest of that (6% was common interest at the time), or $60,000, and then take a tenth of that, or $6,000. Yes, for someone whose net worth is a million dollars, $6,000 could be considered a full and honest tithe, according to its original “standing law forever” definition.
To me, tithing is more like paying the gym membership. Sure, it’s important, so do it. But it’s not really a measure of anything beyond that. If you only pay the gym membership but never go and exercise, what’s the point? So faith and service and especially charity are what is more important (and emphasized much more in scriptures than tithing). Charity is what involves faith and choice and personal application. In recent years, I’ve paid much less tithing (though still full tithing, per my understanding), but try to practice much more charitable giving. And I don’t really care about a measure of blessings… I don’t think of God as a vending machine of blessings… but it feels more like the right thing to do, regardless.
This is a great article sharing several quotes in favor of the surplus method:
http://www.mormondiscussionpodcast.org/2016/03/tithing-considered-paying-surplus/ May 15, 2016 at 2:43 pm #311641Anonymous
Guestnibbler wrote: Quote:As time went on I wanted a more personal relationship with god. I realized that I had many intermediaries between me and god. In my quest for a personal relationship I tried to remove the intermediaries until the relationship became one on one. Everything was between me and god, tithing came as a part of that package deal.
If I were to join a church that had no defined tithing practices, I would still tithe. So maybe it’s useful to step away from gross/net/LDS-centric tithing debates and just ask yourself what you would tithe in another setting.
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