A Stupid Conundrum with Possibly Serious Implications

The choice is of course up to you. I don’t think it’s stupid at all because it affects your peace. Factors I would consider:

1. Am I really needed there or is there some other reason I’m being asked? Sometimes sharing time can be challenging, but some of those challenges can be overcome by leaders being better prepared and teachers fulfilling their roles in sharing time. If I’m being asked because someone thinks I need a job (that I don’t necessarily want or like) then my answer would more likely be negative. If I were truly needed despite those already there doing what they can, I might be more inclined to help especially since I would have skin in the game with my child.

2. Even if I were inclined because of any of the above factors, you correctly point out there are other things to consider. Some of the Primary songs are my most beloved. Others are my most disliked. The one you mention is a hymn that I also thought they were done with in Primary, and one I also don’t like. I think I would find that I might have to excuse myself during those times when they’re signing something that particularly grates. (I currently take “bathroom breaks” in SM when a hymn I dislike comes up.)

3. Is this going to be a regular thing or is it just this one Sunday? Perhaps the president found a sub for the class but the sub can’t stay for sharing time for whatever reason. I’d be more inclined to do it if it weren’t regular.

4. Do I have a calling? Will I miss attending another meeting (SS or PH) that does give me some fulfillment or edification?

Just my thoughts.

Good job being assertive, but not confrontational about it. I hope it works out well for you.

By the way, the kids sang that song in the Primary program a couple weeks ago. I was hoping they wouldn’t sing the second and fourth verses, and they ended up singing the first and third verses. Interesting. Maybe they just picked two verses to sing, or maybe someone said “Let’s skip those verses that bring up the Oath of Vengeance and Blood Atonent.”

2 thoughts.

1) I participate in several churches with my children. Many of these churches have a Vacation Bible School over the summer. I remember one VBS where they were singing this song about Jesus being the only way and this one little boy got offended. I get that the song was pretty exclusionary. At the same time, this is their church and their doctrine. There is a certain amount of benefit in being able to eat the nice snacks and play in the games but not having to believe in everything that they say.

2) Sometimes I think how weird or church must seem to investigators. Even our primary classes do not seem to focus on the basics of Jesus and being kind to others. Instead there is plenty of teaching about the prophet, and the Q12, and temples, and traditional gender and family roles, and the A of F. It can make it hard for less than full believers to be ok with their kids attending when there is such Mormon specific indoctrination going on.

Any time you can help in a way thàt essentially is just being supportive of people and your kids is a good time.

Praise to the Man is a funeral song written by a dear friend who was grieving – and “praise” in Mormon-speak has no connotations of worship. There is nothing I need the song itself that even implies worship, so, frankly, I suggest to everyone in a faith crisis/transition that they look objectively at the song, shrug off the hero worship that many people choose (inside and outside the LDS Church), and not let that song have any power over them. For people who no longer believe in Joseph as a prophet and seer and don’t want to sing it, just don’t sing it. However, don’t ascribe worship to others who simply are singing a song of praise for a fallen leader.