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September 15, 2017 at 4:33 am #211604
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GuestI am one of the lucky members of this board. My husband is the fully disaffected one. This means I live my religion as I please. It works well for me. He is pretty supportive. Not a bad deal. In two weeks I get to put on my girl panties and Mormonize. All my extended family are devout members. I know their nuances but TBM pretty much fits.
3 months ago I planned a trip for my inactive daughter and myself to visit my parents. I was dang proud of myself because I picked a weekend. This would give my mom a week off from my parents 18 year calling (that is not an exaggeration) as Temple Workers. They live 2 hours south of the Temple and have been serving every Sat. for nearly 2 decades. It’s a long story.
I was proud of myself. Then my sister texted tonight. All a flutter. “Just think we all get to watch the Women’s Session together. 4 generations. This will be awesome.” Holy Crap.
Trying to be chill – I text back, “Do we watch at Mom and Dad’s place or Yours?”
Not a chance. “I think we should join the women at such and such building.” – This means dresses, heels, nice. Uck.
Then the final text.”And guess what our Primary Program is the next day. The kids are both in it. You are invited.”
Arrggg. It’s a weekend only trip. More than half of it is church. I don’t even watch as much TV as conference takes up. I don’t watch T.V. ever. Binge watching religion is not a hobby I wish to start. Forget saving my mom from her calling.
I know – You guys do it every week. I’ll take one for the team. And make the most of family time.
Moral of this story: Check the calendar before you book a trip. Oy vey.
September 15, 2017 at 8:43 am #323373Anonymous
GuestBinge watching… I never thought about it that way, but hardcore General Conference can be like that. I cheat by taking the weekend off.
Personally I prefer the book to the film franchise that releases a new segment twice a year. (The way I’ve written that makes GC sound like a tapeworm!)
September 15, 2017 at 5:49 pm #323374Anonymous
GuestTaking one for the team is part of StayingLDS sometimes. It’s part of being a Dad, a husband, a father and a co-worker. I think the idea is to make sure it doesn’t happen so often it interferes with your inner peace. September 15, 2017 at 6:33 pm #323375Anonymous
GuestI just do other stuff when conference is on, like blog, check Facebook, write a post on something that the speaker said that bugs me….. Sometimes I do family history, but mostly try not to pay too much attention so I don’t get upset. Often I hear laughter and realize I missed the joke, but no matter. We had a regional conference and I brought a book to read, “A Reason for Faith” by Laura Hales, so it was kind of spiritual, but much better than listening to these guys drone on about the same stuff over, and over, and over….. (I enjoyed Richard Bushman’s essay on JS and magic, not so much with Brant Gardner on the BoM though.) September 15, 2017 at 8:42 pm #323376Anonymous
GuestSilentDawning wrote:
Taking one for the team is part of StayingLDS sometimes. It’s part of being a Dad, a husband, a father and a co-worker. I think the idea is to make sure it doesn’t happen so often it interferes with your inner peace.
+1
I know the frustration though…my mom is driving to visit…and my home teaching family needs help moving. I kinda feel guilty organizing a move that other ward members and missionaries will help and I won’t even be there…but I need to be with my mom for the weekend visit. Church comes second. This is on my home turf…so it is easy for me to set the tone and tell my mom we will skip church and do something together (and I’ll skip the moving).
Are you the only one in your family that would skip? In the past, we have been together for family reunions, and most want to go to Priesthood session together or something…and I usually am the first one to speak up that I plan to do something else during a short weekend vacay and will catch the GC priesthood talks in the ensign…I usually get a sigh of relief from my brother who doesn’t want to go either but doesn’t want to be the only one. We often split it up and tell people to do what they want…some go…some do not.
I would probably say that is a bit different than going to the primary program where the kids are doing something. That is a little more personal.
You’re in a tough spot. Yikes!
Like SD said…sometimes you take one for the team, grit your teeth and bear it.
Good luck!!
September 15, 2017 at 10:15 pm #323377Anonymous
GuestOh – Just to see your names listed heals my soul. I know I shouldn’t complain. I get “church” my way most of the time. I think I was broadsided by my sister’s enthusiasm. Even when I was TBM – I often found ways to “forget” that the Women’s Broadcast (RS or YW at the time) had happened. Then BYU TV came along and I always opted out with “I will watch it from home.” I’ve been off the reservation on this one for a while now.
I let Nibbler’s thread on the meeting count as my full participation.
Quote:Heber asked – Are you the only one in your family that would skip?
Not a chance. Well me and my inactive daughter. That won’t work we are the guests. My dad has been ill as of late, so I am silently hedging a bet that he might not be great, and then I can at least suggest we watch it at home.
Quote:SD wrote – Taking one for the team is part of StayingLDS sometimes. It’s part of being a Dad, a husband, a father and a co-worker. I think the idea is to make sure it doesn’t happen so often it interferes with your inner peace.
SD you are right. Many of you do it every Sunday and more.
Quote:MH suggested – We had a regional conference and I brought a book to read,
Good idea. I am loading up my tablet with options. I have no idea what I might need. Far Side Comics?
I will return and report.
September 15, 2017 at 10:27 pm #323378Anonymous
GuestMy daughter often gets invited by her friend’s family for Women’s Conf. It’s a pretty fluffy session as they go. Somehow I literally did not know it was a thing until a few years ago when it became a debate in the bloggernacle about whether it was a real session or not. I have a knack for not knowing things I don’t want to know. It’s been a useful strategy in life. September 15, 2017 at 10:44 pm #323379Anonymous
Guestmom3 wrote:
Moral of this story: Check the calendar before you book a trip. Oy vey.
I don’t know who originated this idea but when I heard it I immediately adopted it. I have a 100 mile rule which states that any trip where I’m more than 100 miles away from home that Sabbath rules don’t apply. Eat out – yes, if it’s in the budget. Disneyland? Absolutely. Early morning run – why not. Skip church, almost always. I’ve advertised the 100 mile rule to my entire family and they know I live it and this rule takes the brunt of hard feelings and even adds a touch of humor.
Last weekend I visited my parents and 4 sisters for a niece’s baptism. I’m the only child who doesn’t live in my parents’ ward and yes, I live more than 100 miles away. My poor mother wanted me to attend church
so muchwith the entire family and I did feel a little guilty. Although I didn’t totally waste the time because I spent all of church tutoring my son in high school mathematics. I made sure they saw me doing math while they were at church. Perhaps the 100 mile rule, or some corollary, might apply to General Conference.
September 16, 2017 at 3:54 am #323380Anonymous
GuestQuote:Roadrunner wrote – Perhaps the 100 mile rule, or some corollary, might apply to General Conference.
This has merit.
September 17, 2017 at 5:45 pm #323381Anonymous
GuestIf it was me, I would push for doing the conference thing at home in PJ’s. It just seems so much more like quality time when you can converse and watch the session with some sort of awesome food like waffles with ice cream and chocolate syrup.
my $0.02
September 18, 2017 at 8:08 pm #323382Anonymous
Guest“Far Side Comics?” Be careful. You don’t want to burst out laughing at the wrong moment!
😆 September 19, 2017 at 5:02 pm #323383Anonymous
GuestQuote:f it was me, I would push for doing the conference thing at home in PJ’s.
It just seems so much more like quality time when you can converse and watch the session with some sort of awesome food like waffles with ice cream and chocolate syrup.
That is the direction I am working on right now.
September 19, 2017 at 5:02 pm #323384Anonymous
GuestSeptember 26, 2017 at 5:53 pm #323385Anonymous
GuestReturning and Reporting. – I went, I watched, and I live. The go the church thing didn’t happen – Whew. Watched at home while eating dinner and noisy little cousins roamed around. Not a bad session. It was Uchtdorf which is always nice. Ironically my entire TBM family let out a small whoop when it was announced he would be the concluding speaker.
Sunday was Sacrament Meeting only – Niece’s primary program. She is a cute kid. Sang her heart out.Pretty chill, lots of kids promising to clean their room or their brothers room as their Choose The Right moment.
All and all – not bad. My dad is beginning to have memory issues, my parents are pushing 80, my niece and nephew are the last grandkids my parents will have. So lots of fun for the most part.
September 26, 2017 at 7:51 pm #323386Anonymous
GuestGlad to hear that you did not have to quietly sit together in the dark in your formal attire! :thumbup: -
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