Doubting my Patriarchal Blessing

I know people who put a great deal of stock in their PB. I don’t. To me it’s very much like a visit to a psychic. They probably get all the generic stuff pretty much right if only because it can be self fulfilling (eg it says you’re supposed to go on a mission so you do). Like yours Beefster there are things in mine which have not come to pass and at this point in my life are very unlikely to happen. From a very orthodox point of view it would probably be pointed out that this is because I haven’t done my part, but from my point of view I have (and the TBMs don’t know what they’re talking about).

I have not read mine in several years. My wife reads hers all the time. Mine has some good general advice (eg stay out of debt), some stuff that just “meh” and some stuff that’s apparently horse hockey pucks. Good advice is good advice no matter where it comes from. I can accept that and take the rest with a grain of salt. Sometimes it’s even a little amusing.

I desire very much for my son to receive the priesthood from me. I want him to be included in my priesthood line of authority that includes my father and grandfather. What does it mean for me to put my hands over his head and say some words. It could mean nothing. It could be quite significant. For me it is relationship binding and is significant. My son will have something that will never leave him that the men in his family have passed down to him. A form of birthright.

A PB can be similar. There are parts of it that I find meaningful. There are parts of it that do not seem to fit me. I tend to skip over those parts.

Originally the church patriarch gave blessings to those members who did not have a father that was a member of the church. It was the right of the father (as the natural patriarch) to give these blessings to his offspring. I feel that it is important for me to give father’s blessings every year before school starts. It is relationship binding and that is significant to me.

I also feel that the father’s blessings help to allay fears and bolster courage for the unknown. PB’s also have this benefit. Can it be a Dumbo’s feather? Sometimes, but maybe we all need a little help to take that first step out into the darkness.

I had one of those patriarchal blessings. There were a number of specifics, none of which came true (for example, I would be given the gift of tounges and learn several new languages while serving my mission). Also, parts about my struggles and challenges, things that I’m good at… From the start, I felt it was completely off. When speaking to my mission president, several bishops, and a stake president, they mostly all told me “you don’t understand it,” and then proceeded to reframe the prophecy until it came true. The alternative I’ve had mentioned, is that it is because of my lack of faith, or sinfulness that it didn’t come true. There is an excellent book I read some time ago, called “When Prophecy Fails”. It covers a study of a small doomsday cult, and what happened when their prophetess’ prophecy on the end of the world did not come true. I think one out of the 30 members left; the rest were even more committed, because it was through their faithfulness the earth was spared. It’s a good read, and I find it applying to just about any religion that believes in prophecy (JWs, Presbyterians, AJ Miller, Jim Jones, and even the LDS Church).

I also recall a seminar given by Dr. Robert Caldini, when he spoke on his skills as a palm reader (as a side job, he’s a world renouned social psychologist). He first took up the skill during college, and it was a hit at parties. He could literally divinate people’s personality, history, and future by reading the lines on the hand. Then, one day, he decided to toss out all he had learned, and purposefully misinterpret the lines. When the lines said “generous”, he said “selfish”. When the lines said “stubborn”, he said “easy going”. The funny thing is, it still worked perfectly in the eyes of the recipent. Caldini knew things about them, no one else could possibly know!

He went into more explaination as to why this works, but my main point is this: Prophecy NEVER fails. Never ever. It’s the nature of prophecy; whether you’re LDS, a Wiccan, or a Haruspex. I did have a particularly wise bishop, at one point, who gave me the first solid advice I ever recieved on my PB. He told me his hadn’t come true either. So what did he decide to do? “I wrote my own.” It’s advice I’d give to anyone. Choose your own path. Pick your own destiny.

According to Mormon theology/practice, I am the patriarch of our home. Can I give a patriarchal blessing?

It does tell me to pay tithing and pray regularly

Have you paid tithing? Then you have checked that one off. You just need to pray regularly now.

If apologists and the essays can play with words, you can too!

My dad had a very specific item in his and he was TBM to the end and it didn’t come true.

Originally the church patriarch gave blessings to those members who did not have a father that was a member of the church. It was the right of the father (as the natural patriarch) to give these blessings to his offspring. I feel that it is important for me to give father’s blessings every year before school starts. It is relationship binding and that is significant to me.

I also feel that the father’s blessings help to allay fears and bolster courage for the unknown. PB’s also have this benefit. Can it be a Dumbo’s feather? Sometimes, but maybe we all need a little help to take that first step out into the darkness.

😮 I had no idea that patriarchal blessings had these origins..! That sheds an entirely new light on church history, especially when it’s linked with sealings and eternal families – IE spiritual adoption and eternal increase. That is super interesting.

From what I’ve heard, women used to give blessings of healing. I love your description of having your sons be a line of priesthood in your family. How you described it made me want to be a part of a meaningful tradition as well.

My PB is mostly generic. I used to agonize over specific phrasing and wording, usually pertaining to the marriage portion. “It says YOUNG man, but how young is young? Now that I’m getting ‘older’ does that mean I have to go for an early 20s guy now? What does it all MEAN??” But I think I put a lot of undue and unhealthy fixation into those outcomes instead of living and learning through reality, and even though I catch my thoughts going back to my PB, I’m a lot more open to many options for my life now.

However, the patriarch did mention that he hadn’t had something come up before in his blessings, something that did come up in mine. It relates to callings in the church. For the few years I was inactive I was a bit self-righteous about how I knew that part couldn’t happen anymore. Now that I go to church fairly often, I chuckle at my former self and am inquisitive about where my life will go next. Funnily, there is a part that’s always stuck with me – that my life would literally be protected. I never understood that part until earlier this year I made a ridiculously stupid decision that could have resulted in legal action against me, but the other party chose not to engage. If nothing else, that phrase has come to pass in that instance and I will be forever grateful that my life (what future there is/was of it) was protected and passed on unscathed. I have little qualms about the dissonance of believing in that portion and being cautiously curious about the rest of my PB.

I think the declaration of lineage is mostly symbolic at this point and is probably meaningless if taken literally. It’s just the church fulfilling the Gathering of Israel in a literal sense.

I’m betting we’re probably all Ephraim. It’s the tribe of the white people.