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I am beginning to feel more and more like a Black Sheep within the LDS Circle. Recently, my mother said people are saying I am viewing and sharing pornographic things on Facebook and that other members we know are seeing it. I mean first off I know for a fact I’m not sharing things that are pornographic or “liking” these things on Facebook. (I do watch Porn despite trying to do it less on my own private time yes I have a problem but I don’t make it public) Now I do have a different sense of humor and maybe things I’m “liking” or sharing my come off as inappropriate for the goody goods we know, but it’s mostly just stuff like American Dad and Family Guy (My favorite TV shows lol) I mean why do these people make it their business? Why don’t they just unfriend me? I could give two *expletive* what they thought. However, the thought of them coming to my parents to whine about their 24 year old son’s sense of humor is troubling in my eyes. Why is it their business? I recently asked why some people dislike the church. And a common response was that members not some but a lot come off as judgmental holier than thou types. Well I guess I’m beginning to understand that concept. My parents are not like this though. It’s not like I committed a crime. When I was close to 24 someone at church told me, “ wedon’t watch the Simpsons in our house.” and I could swear that the angle of their nose tilted upwards just a little when they said it… and this was back in the day when the worst the Simpsons were doing was building a shoddy monorail. I sure hope Little House on the Prairie, Highway to Heaven, and the Lawrence Welk Show didn’t come on TV on Sundays so they could watch something… if they even had a sinbox in their house.
:angel: :angel: Only thing you can do is not judge them for judging. It’s not as fun but it’s probably healthier.
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When I was close to 24 someone at church told me, “wedon’t watch the Simpsons in our house.” and I could swear that the angle of their nose tilted upwards just a little when they said it… and this was back in the day when the worst the Simpsons were doing was building a shoddy monorail. I sure hope Little House on the Prairie, Highway to Heaven, and the Lawrence Welk Show didn’t come on TV on Sundays so they could watch something… if they even had a sinbox in their house.
:angel: :angel: Only thing you can do is not judge them for judging. It’s not as fun but it’s probably healthier.
You’re right! Screw them! haha. But it doesn’t really help that my Dad is the stake president. But that shouldn’t matter at all. Like why is it their business? There is that old saying “Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you do”. I don’t judge people, I don’t pretend to be some faithful saint either. I simply just mind my own business.
willb1993 wrote:I mean first off I know for a fact I’m not sharing things that are pornographic or “liking” these things on Facebook.
Well, fix that. Who are you to throw a monkey wrench in their worldview by not doing what they accuse you of?
I recommend a Borat-style mankini and live video feeds from the tanning salon. Bonus points if you’re over 300 pounds and/or have at least 15 pounds of body hair.
Beware of Social Media. The good: It allows you to share things easily with diverse people. The bad: It allows you to share things easily with diverse people. I am a 40 year old professional man. I am aware that there are members and non-members on my FB. Some are members of my ward. There are republicans and democrats. There is extended family. There are coworkers employed by the same business.
I try to be very careful what I like, share, and post. I share almost everything posted by my employer (not required but encouraged). When I like something or respond to another’s post I try to be encouraging and avoid any hot button issues.
I also am somewhat selective in who I add to FB. For example I have received a friend request from my bishop and one of his counselors. I am friendly with both of them and they seem like fine people – but I do not want to feel like I am being “watched” any more than I already am. I did not accept the friend requests.
Yes, people are judgmental. That is not going to change. I suggest managing your social media to limit how much of yourself you choose to expose to the glaring public. For me, I look at it as a liability or exposure or risk issue.
To build off of Roy’s comments – I learn more about what’s happening in my ward from Facebook and Instagram than from my RS President. It’s amazing how much people will share on Facebook. Trip to the bar and the new favorite beer on tap, weekend with the boyfriend, how awesome you look in a bikini, your kid sitting on a toilet, your innermost desires for life. I’ve seen it all on facebook and I think people feel that it’s somehow anonymous even though it’s decidedly not. I try not to use it to judge but I definitely use it to take a pulse on what’s happening to ward members.
Also – one person’s underwear ad is another person’s pornography.
My husband posts thought provoking pieces/meme’s from a site called “I F#$*ing Love Science.” I hate the F-word with a passion. I block everyone of them. I also hide posts from my overly passionate Evangelical friends. I just can’t endure some of their takes on things.
That means I am judgmental, too.
Remember social media is like picking your nose in the car. Everyone actually can see you.
Roy’s comments on this are wise. Social media is actually dangerous. As some folk say, it is actually doing more to destroy friendships than build them. Religion and politics on it are insane. Atheists are some of the most aggressive on there too.
Just five minutes ago I had to delete a comment a friend posted on a page I run on Facebook… he’s obviously drunk, has a big problem that way, but if he starts getting bad I can avoid him. Not so on social media.
For a while I’ve been toying with the idea of a separate FB account to use with church members.
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