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I’ve had multiple PMs and emails asking about what happened to SD. I contacted SD via email… and he asked me to post this response. Silent Dawning said:
Quote:“Cwald suggested I post an explanation of why I deregistered my account since people have been asking him. The reasons are innocuous enough. So I said it was OK to post it in the threads if the moderators are OK with it.
Essentially, I read a comment in a thread and it disturbed me to the point I felt I had to take a break from StayLDS. I felt a deactivation would prevent me from returning — as a form of forced self-discipline. There was a comment that also really hit my Achilles tendon for a couple days. But I now see the wisdom of that comment and it’s actually helping me realize many other people have similar hardships as I do, but in different ways. My life situation is not so unique that I should be so disturbed by it all the time — when viewed more broadly.
The moderators were good enough to honor my request for deactivation after suggesting I keep it active. I learned after the deactivation hat I’d actually made a misinterpretation, and that my reasons for asking for deactivation were unjustified. However, I was spending a lot of time at StayLDS, and although I had no intention of leaving the site for that reason, I thought I would just experiment with being away now that the account was deactivated.
I just want to say thanks to everyone who cared enough to ask about me. Most other sites don’t really care when you leave and the fact that people have asked Cwald about why I’m not participating is moving to me. At the same time, I am being a bit more productive than I usually am, which is good. But I miss the site as its the only place I feel like I’m a full fledged member of the team. I still read posts every three days or so and often wish I could say something.
But thanks again for asking about me, I really appreciate it. I want to say I think the site does a lot of good, and I appreciate the work and time and effort the moderators put into it when I suspect they too have personal problems and issues. Yet they transcend those problems to help us all here.
Thanks everyone, I’m touched, I really am that people have been asking about me. I suspect the day will come when I ask for my account to be reactivated — after I catch up on my work!”
Thanks for the up date. I look forward to your return if and when the times is right. I have always appreciated your comments and insights but I can also understand the time it takes to be involved. Godspeed my friend. Thanks for the explanation. We will miss your perspectives. They have certainly helped me along the way! But being productive is important too. Glad to know you’re okay. I think that all of the moderators and admins wanted, selfishly, for you to stay, SD – but we also want you to do what is best for you to do, and stepping away for a while and “testing out” what you’ve learned here in the extra time you now have is a good thing, in my opinion. In the end, you doing what is best for you is more important than our selfish wants – and I mean that sincerely, not as a guilt trip in any way. We really do love you, and we wish you the absolute best “in real life”.
(I spelled out “imo” and “irl” just for you, friend.)
I really miss SD and anyone who leaves. This is not a large community, and we really are trying to support one another. I have not met any of you, but I consider you my friends, because I share with you things I would only share with my trusted and closest friends. We need each other.
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I really miss SD and anyone who leaves. This is not a large community, and we really are trying to support one another. I have not met any of you, but I consider you my friends, because I share with you things I would only share with my trusted and closest friends.+1
I’m glad to hear you are doing alright. I completely understand that it can be really hard to resist the temptation to spend a lot of time reading and writing posts at blogs like this; I quit posting at some sites entirely without ever looking back because I always felt like I had to respond to things that were said and it was emotionally draining. I fully understand where you are coming from SD. Take a break for a long enough time for the StayLDS withdrawl to wear off before making a decision on jumping in again. We’ll still be here for you if you ever change your mind. Your friend,
Roy
Hoping you come back someday. I enjoy your posts. Your absence has been deeply felt by me, as I considered you a kindred spirit. I benefited greatly from your thoughts and feelings about life and the church. Godspeed! SilentDawning, I have & will miss reading your insightful and heart-felt posts.
Yet, I understand the need to take a break.
I hope the best for you.
Had contact with SD recently. His family is attending another ward that is much more functional and that has made a huge difference for the engagement level of the wife and kids. SD himself is still intellectually isolated from the church but continues to attend with the family. He is active in a number of non-church groups and activities and is enjoying developing his talents. He still remembers everyone fondly and I believe pops in to read posts now and again, but now is not the right time to return to active participation…maybe later. 
Thanks for the update, Roy. Thanks. Best of luck!
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