Alma 39:5

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mom3 wrote:

I can’t tell you how many married women I have talked to who on their wedding night/honeymoon were overcome with fear. This over intense presentation creates a whiplash effect. Yes, they are married and sex is legal, but it has been so taboo-ed and so “sin next to murdered” that when it’s allowed there is misery of another sort.

I have read material that suggests this gets called “good girl syndrome”. Helpfully, the Church teaches it willingly.

The Church has chosen to teach sex and sexuality, while parents have decided to just let them. Of course, the Church doesn’t actually know how to teach sex/sexuality in any kind of healthy way, but that’s beside the point. The Church teaches what it does, some people are fine while others end up with major issues and parents act like the Church is fine for talking about stuff. Rather than it being the responsibility of parents, not the Church which shouldn’t be teaching anything if it can’t teach healthy material. The Church, for all of its “good intentions”, tries to help, but I think it doesn’t succeed at times. The presumption that “It’s the Church” saying it and therefore it must be right is common. I think we should consider that if the members are not perfect then how is the Church perfect? I thought that when Jesus came again, he would perfect the saints and Church.

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My next RS lesson, I’ll find a way to work that in …

AP let me know how that goes.

As to women who have the opposite, I know they exist, too. I just know that the others really struggled and it caused early marital grief.

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I have read material that suggests this gets called “good girl syndrome”

Thanks for the name. I sense that as future generations evolve in church, parents will take a more active role in discussing these topics. I think a combination of American Social Taboo’s and religious tradition came together and this is the result. The combination probably worked really well until the 1960’s, but the events of that decade changed the game, as a church we are reluctant to change with society.

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