Another new face

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kristmace wrote:

Rich,

Great to see you around these boards. Hope you and your family are ok, I’ve not seen any of your for a good few years now. One of my fondest memories in my early years in the church was your wife teaching me in primary.

I assume that you’ve read my recent introduction, and being so early in my ‘crisis’ I would love any advice you have to offer on these forums. It’s incredibly reassuring to realise that people who you know in the church feel the same/similar.

Hi Kristmace

Yes my wife still tells stories of when she used to babysit you!

I read you introduction with interest, especially knowing who you were. I have to say I was suprised when I first heard but agree it is very reassuring to find kindred spirits among the people you know. Its comforting to find someone who is a good honest church member experiencing the same things that I did and it helps me realise that I wasn`t just some loner oddball when I went through this myself. I guess the word I`m looking for is `validating`. I wouldn`t wish it on anyone but I can`t help but feel, rightly or wrongly, that I`m a better me than I was before. I know myself better. My advice for what its worth is take it steady (although not as steady as I did ), set your boundaries. Focus on your relationship with your wife. It was a massive relief to my wife when she realised I wasn`t about to abandon all sense of morality and go all cats and dogs sleeping together on her.

It takes time.

Of course you`re more than welcome to fire any question my way via personal messages. It goes without saying that anything you say goes no further than me. We need our space to work through it all. I guarantee you`ll help me just as much.

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