Are relationships really capable of lasting forever?

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Minyan Man wrote:

A number of you have talked about how your wife is your best friend. That has been true for me too. Recently there has

been a drastic change. My wife has been treated with depression & paranoia for the past 10 years. Recently it has changed

to include bipolar disorder. It has developed into very delusional thinking & beliefs. Accusations of being unfaithful & having

other children with other women. As a reminder, I’m 74 yrs old, in poor health & I don’t have the energy. There are times

when it is funny & other times, it is just desperation. I’m not sure where it’s going or if it can be treated. She takes medication &

psychotherapy. She has been hospitalized once for a short period of time. If you met her, you would think she has it all together

with no problems & a pillar of our little community.

What I’m trying to say is, the close personal relationship I’ve had with my wife are slowly going away. So, I have to develop closer

relationships with my adult children, siblings & a friend at church. They listen, let me vent & give suggestions. Will these relationships

last forever? I hope so. For now, I need them desperately.

This world has conditions that are not in our control and are always changing.

We cherish the moments that are good. And choose to deal with the rest.

Things in this world don’t last forever.

But we can hope for more than what is of this world.

Roy wrote:

It is not fair to expect another person to deliver your happiness. I have also heard that maintaining additional friendships and associations outside the marriage is positive. It is not fair to the spouse that they should be expected to fulfill all your social needs. If you need someone to watch football with and your spouse doesn’t like football – perhaps the best solution is to find some friends that like football. Stay balanced – moderation in all things.

Well said.

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SilentDawning wrote:

One of my other, online guilty pleasures is interaction with musicians running bands. I read about relationship problems all the time there, and give advice about business, management, and other topics. One piece of advice I often give to people kicked out of bands is to start another one and make it a raging success. Success and new fulfilling relationships ease the pain of the old ones. Sometimes you end up better off than you were before!

This has been my experience. My second wife is my best friend and I hope it last forever. All we can do is keep moving forward and seek after good things in our life instead of being trapped wishing it was different.

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