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Who can give a blessing if my husband is inactive? I don’t want to make a big deal out of it but I have a very sick child and my husband doesn’t want to give a blessing. Is it okay to call the home teachers? Traditionally home teachers would be the first choice. Or any other member of the ward you are friendly with would probably love to help. Bishopric will generally make these kinds of requests a priority if you wanted to call them. And it’s not a big deal to anyone, this is what the priesthood is for. You can ask anyone you trust who holds the priesthood. It’s fine to call your home teachers. That’s what they are for.
😮 )I’ve been in your shoes, lots of times. It feels so helpless to want that blessing for your child, and not be able to do anything about it. You want to show love and respect and understanding for your husband, and he gets to make his own choices.
Yet in the middle of the night when you’re scared, or you’re covered in throw up, or blood, or the fever just rises, or the coughing won’t stop…it’s hard. You want to make it better, but you are a woman and don’t hold the priesthood. You don’t want to bother a home teacher at midnight. I understand only too well.
I try to remember that I can pray. I DO have faith, which has got to be comparable to priesthood, if it can move mountains. I believe God hears the prayers of a petitioning mother.
Sometimes you just need a blessing though. That’s fine. Call the home teachers. Call a friend. Call a member of the bishopric. It’s ok.
It’s been important to me that I show respect to my husband as still being the father and a leader in our home. Whoever comes over had better respect that role.
I don’t ask certain family members for blessings for that very reason. They can’t resist clucking over what a terrible shame it is that my kid’s father is not doing the blessing. I will NOT let anyone put down my husband.
I ask my husband how he feels abt me having HTs over for blessing, if he wants to be present, to participate, to leave, etc. It’s his call. To his credit, he supports me in my faith needs. Sometimes he personally wants to be present, and other times not.
Anyway, good luck. I hope your child is well again soon.
What others have said. I just will add that the prayer of faith is recorded as being a blessing in a real way, so you can pray, as well. Don’t “lay hands” in any official looking way, but praying while holding a child can be a wonderful thing.
Yes definitely, or a good family friend. hope your little one gets better.
Donna, A few thoughts…
– I would start with a family friend, then HTers, the EQ President, then Bishopric member, in that order. This is simply to have the people closer to you first, and work outward from there… to the first one you feel comfortable with.
– Don’t worry about asking. I always found it a great privilege to be asked.
– I don’t know the situation in your family, so the may or may not apply to you… but you might consider asking your husband to coordinate it. For example, you could say, “I would like for our daughter to have a blessing…
… How would we go about that… … Would you like to call them or do you want me to?” In no way am I implying that you must defer to him… if you want a blessing for your child, you are at liberty to take charge. But it’s possible that your husband may not feel like he wants to do it, but may lament inside that he can’t. Most men want to be providers, whether women want them to or not is immaterial. Involving him, even to the point of having him arrange it, might make him feel less like he has spiritually abandoned you. Your husband may be different, but it’s the reality I face as the one member of my family that isn’t a believer. You can give the blessing yourself. Faith is what heals, not the priesthood.
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Just wanted to add my agreement to what has been shared so far. cwald wrote:You can give the blessing yourself.
Faith is what heals, not the priesthood.
Just the other day my mother told me that she regularly puts all her children on the temple prayer list. I don’t mind in the least but I wonder if she might not be reducing her available options. Let me explain: If she always puts our names on the prayer roll and then something terrible happens, what is she going to do? It’s not like she can put us on the prayer roll, because we are already there.
I guess my point is that anything that would provide this young mother with comfort and support in her moment of despair is worthwhile. What exactly would be most beneficial depends upon the feelings of the parents. As far as getting support from others – our modern church has a specific method for that (priesthood blessing). If the parents want and would feel comforted and supported by a priesthood blessing, then that seems like a match made in heaven (pun intended
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