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unsure wrote:
I do love my dad and really wish I would have gotten to spend more time with him as a child.
This IMO, is why, especially for those with minor children, certain sets of callings should be limited to no more than two years, with at least a two year break between them. And by sets, I mean lumping all the heavy travel and/or heavy time callings together, so they don’t just cycle those people through a dozen different stake/district level callings (or ward level callings that require a lot more time out of the home than most) and still have them missing an entire childhood.
I have a rule that we do not make major purchases until we have the opportunity to “sleep on it.” I have applied the same rule to accepting callings. There can be big pressure to accept right away. I currently serve in the scouting program and my son is in scouts. This works for us because even though I am not in the same group as he is – we are still spending time together at the church on Wednesday nights.
Roy wrote:I have a rule that we do not make major purchases until we have the opportunity to “sleep on it.” I have applied the same rule to accepting callings. There can be big pressure to accept right away.
Another problem singles have in the Church; I don’t get the noble excuse of “well, bishop, I’ll need to discuss this with my wife.”
NightSG wrote:Roy wrote:I have a rule that we do not make major purchases until we have the opportunity to “sleep on it.” I have applied the same rule to accepting callings. There can be big pressure to accept right away.
Another problem singles have in the Church; I don’t get the noble excuse of “well, bishop, I’ll need to discuss this with my wife.”
You can make it your own personal rule. It doesn’t need to be because of a spouse although it might be easier to blame them for it.
“Other personailties” works better than spouse. Take a 12 month sabbatical from all church callings. At the end of that you will have a pretty good idea which path is more fulfilling Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Jen Riess did that and she wrote about it on her blog Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I want to serve. I just want input in the “how” and “how much” I serve. Your thoughts resonate a lot here. I have 3 mostly non-Sunday callings.
My husband is in the bishopric.
Someone recently asked me to sub in primary for her this summer.
I gave her some dates that I could help and she said,
😯 “Yeah, I’m trying to find people to sub who don’t have callings.”:wtf: What was that??
As much as I do for my parts of the forest/ward/stake, this woman had NO clue. At that moment I wanted to cry.
I enjoy my callings since they are skills I’ve mastered over the years, but at that moment I felt so unappreciated.
My husband, as some of you know, is a first responder and works 24 hours on a shift rotation.
He’s gone a lot.
We homeschool.
My plate is sometimes quite full and yet I somehow expect myself to keep it spinning.
I do believe that there are times when we HAVE to pull through these types of trials. Heroes in literature face opposition and frustrations and sometimes they face the seemingly impossible. There are times when they have to use sheer grit to get through. If we think of our selves as heroes in our own lives, and recognize challenges as we encounter them, it can help us navigate how we will respond.
Maybe right now you are feeling unappreciated and that weighs heavily on your heart.
Maybe you do have too much pulling for your mental energy and that takes a toll on your family.
Maybe you don’t.
I don’t know your answer, but I hope that as you evaluate where you are and where you need to be, you’ll see it all very clearly.
And, lastly, sometimes it’s okay to let go of things that need to be gone, even if it’s only temporary.
Roy wrote:I want to serve. I just want input in the “how” and “how much” I serve.
Roy, what kind of activities do you like?
– Teach doctrine.
– Work with youth.
– Work by yourself.
The calling I accepted was Family History Coordinator.
I really like my calling.
I work basically alone at home, very few people ask for help, if they need help, they come to my home or at church during SS.
I like to work with computers & I like history.
There are very few meetings. I go to the ones I want to.
There are no formal classes to teach.
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