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Another idea comes to mind… Perhaps you’re friends aren’t anti pornography, but they are concerned about other things? Maybe they support gay rights, feminism, animal rights, or care about preserving the environment or ending poverty. Maybe they care about obesity or other health epidemics. These are just some causes that come to mind. The point is we all have certain causes that matter more than others to us. We don’t have the emotional space so to speak to be passionate about everything. Maybe just maybe, they are concerned by something you or the LDS church does and they are overlooking it to be friends?
You being LDS means you were taught throughout your life that virtue and chastity were extremely important and that sexual sins are a big deal. These friends may have not been conditioned to feel the way you do thus they don’t feel inclined to research behind the scenes about pornography. They also don’t seem to feel ashamed if they are leaving it out in the open knowing you were staying over.
As far as talking to your friends, don’t. If they ever brought it up that would be a chance for you to express your views. However, from what you can gather they don’t feel the way you do and the conversation might not be positive.
Ten years out of Utah with porn using non member friends and plenty of porn using Mormon friends in the closet
🙂 Thanks for all the feedback, Iv been thinking about what is said and there was one comment that kind of made me see why this situation bothers me so much, the handgun comment. My husband said he was first exposed to porn and struggled with it after he found magazines under his dads bed when he was really young. I think this situation just stirred up a whole lot of heartache with me because I feel it was completely irresponsible of his parents and now I feel like I’m seeing the same situation all over again.
Because I had to deal with the consequences it left a bad taste in my mouth, and the handgun comment really sums it up. I think why I got my back up so much was because It hits close to home with me and if only those magazines were contained years ago maybe things would have been easier (no Internet really back then).
Anyway Definately something I need to work through. Easier said then done.
Thanks for the apology cwald. Girlygirl, perhaps you should tell your friends exactly that. Something to consider.
Quote:My husband said he was first exposed to porn and struggled with it after he found magazines under his dads bed when he was really young. I think this situation just stirred up a whole lot of heartache with me because I feel it was completely irresponsible of his parents and now I feel like I’m seeing the same situation all over again.
It makes sense this is hitting you on a personal note, totally understandable. Also you have every right not to let your kids (if you have them) go over there. If they ask you why, then sure tell them why. However, I disagree with the commenter that said you should tell them how you feel and why at this point. As far as what we are reading, your kids were not exposed to porn at their house, you were.
If they don’t seem to care if their kids see porn sitting out thats their call. And also your call to react to this revelation about them.
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