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Well, I talked to my husband about me drinking, and he doesn’t think I should do it either for the reasons I talked about. I guess I just don’t like the part of me that feels so smug that I have never taken a drink, and I have that ‘holier than thou’ attitude about it. However, because of my family background with drinking, I have no desire to drink at all, I am just not sure how to get past that attitude part of it. I think I just have the attitude that ‘I am smarter than all of those who drink’, because I’m not setting myself up for those situations that I have seen in my family caused by drinking. And because I haven’t known anyone, including my husband, who is able to drink moderately all of the time, I don’t see the value or possibility of only ever drinking responsibly. I hope I’m not offending anyone. Wow, I laughed all through the first part of your post.(with you, of course) You took the words right out of my mouth. So you are the new ward project. I may be the next project of our ward soon. I’m not sure how I would feel about those sinners talking about my weeknesses in PEC and making me a project like we did when I was EQP then Bishops councilor. As for the alcohol thing I drank growing up and am fairly sure that I’m not an alcoholic, but you really have to be careful, you just don’t know. Drinking and driving is a terrible Idea, make sure you designate if you decide to. Also, take a PPI, aka little purple pill, prilosec otc, etc.. that will help you not get sick if you decide to drink. Also, don’t expect any drink to taste good, most don’t unless they are pathetically low in ETOH, then you’ll have to drink a gallon to even get a buz. I have started socially drinking again reciently just because it is fun, it makes the parties funner and if your a non drinker you won’t always get invited, although its really fun to watch everyone else get completly stupid, take pictures and remind them for the next several months. Last of all alcohol probably brings more problems and sadness into this world than anything else. Its a gamble if you want to play it safe, then don’t play. If you have a family history of alcohol abuse, ABSOLUTELY don’t drink. Period. Full stop. End of discussion. All intellectual, theoretical discussions aside, if your family has a history of problems with alcohol, there is NO leeway in this discussion. Alcoholism tends to run in families and be passed on genetically. We know that now. Perhaps you won’t become an alcoholic, but if you and your spouse both drink – even moderately, and if your children grow up seeing that and decide to drink – even moderately . . . Don’t do it. Period.
As I said, tackle the issue of how you view other people who do drink. They have made their decision, and it might or might be a good one for them. So be it. You do things all the time that appear to others to be just as dumb as drinking appears to be to you. Therefore, on a scale of dumbness, they have nothing on you. There, that was easy.
(I’m not really saying it “should” be easy. Seriously, that was a joke. It probably won’t be easy in practice – but recognizing how easy it can be *in theory* can help, as long as you don’t take it as a chance to feel guilty or stupid or weak if it is hard in practice. Many women are prone to that, and I absolutely don’t want to contribute to you internalizing that perspective.)
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