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Someone made the following astute observations about the kids in the video. Did she really do those kids a favor by catering to their lack of preparation and lack of flexibility? The daughter refuses to eat what she prepared, and after protesting briefly she gives in and makes the kid something else. The son “forgets” to put together his science fair project until the morning of and they miraculously put it together, and then HE WINS?! Is that even remotely believable? And that somehow is helping his self esteem (rather than his sense of “I can get away with murder” and “my lack of preparation is something Mom will cover for”)? I’m not convinced that this is great parenting in the long run. Also, the little snots don’t even notice Mom having a break-down on the couch. I shared this personal story on the Exponent II Blog:
Quote:“48 hours after the birth of my second son, my sister asked me if I would watch her pre-teen kids while she went to the temple. I really didn’t feel up to it. I was tired. I said no, that I really couldn’t do it. She kept insisting her kids would be a help to me, and something about blessings of the temple or something. She said she would only be 3 hours, no more.
When she dropped her kids off, they hadn’t eaten any lunch. I had to feed them, then entertain them all afternoon instead of taking care of my own needs. By dinner time, my sister was still nowhere to be found, so I had to cook a meal for everyone, and then I went up to my room, shut the door, and bawled while laying on the floor. I was physically and emotionally exhausted, practically suicidal. I finally called my husband and said I couldn’t take any more, and he needed to come home. By then he was already on his way, and he was fairly unhappy that I was taken advantage of in this way.
Just thinking about that day still makes me feel horrible. This video reminded me of that.”
That’s the only time this kind of thing ever happened to me. Being a career woman has its advantages I guess. Less being taken advantage of. Well, except at work.
This may be a bit of a thread jack, if it does lets pull back to the OP, here is my additional struggle with the video – the implication that service is a woman’s thing. 3 years ago my bishop created a community service calling, it wasn’t in the handbook or a church directive, he felt we should be doing community service as a ward. I got the calling. He and I worked it together, sometimes I came to ward council sometimes we just ran the thing with only his approval. The idea was projects for everyone.
We have a new bishop and new RS Presidency – community service isn’t this bishops thing – that is okay (yes it saddens me but I get it), however instead of ending the calling they just moved me to Humanitarian aid person under Relief Society. That move alone has created the idea in both genders mind that I just do Relief Society Service things. Stuff like quilts, school supply drives (which the women usually have to shop for) – No one bats an eye at this. “Don’t worry the gals will get this.”
It would really have helped the envision-ment of service – no matter how large or small – for this not to be a Mom thing. DarkJedi – I agree that pornography gets pinned on men – that too is out of hand. Okay the entire discussion is out of hand, but really we just made SAHM look like door mats. This is so not how I picture Eve.
Fwiw, I think it was kind of overworked, bland, nonsensical – like an Ensign article on a screen. So many of them read like there might have been a good idea in the beginning, but it didn’t survive the process. I don’t think it really captured the subtle beauty of service, and it dragged in some undesirable stuff in the net at the same time.
I LOVE the Cheiko O. quote about boundaries in hawkgrrrl’s post. It really is true, I’m learning, that “good fences make good neighbors,” and my fences were in bad repair. I learn a lot from y’all here. Thank you!
Ann wrote:“good fences make good neighbors,”
I like that! It is short enough to stitch onto a pillow.
:thumbup: Quote:. To keep myself calm I just scribbled Just Say No over and over again on my program. Thank heavens they give you paper for Sacrament Meeting.
Mom3′ we need a like button
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