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Good call on the thread closure, Ray. It was going downhill to nowhere fast. Now wait a minute DJ, I was just getting started. :eh: I felt it was a really good discussion but I also thought that Dax’s postIt started to feel like there were a few rocks hidden inside the snowballs that were being tossed around.
No offense intended, Mom3. I liked your post. But the overall gist of things was headed in a direction of “men are pigs” and “how can any many possibly justify this?” IMO. Ilike the way Ray put it actually, asserting that pretty much all that can be said has been – it was a very gentle way of saying “let’s not go there.” (Unless I’m totally misreading it.) I wrote the following to LookingHard, who sent me a Private Message asking about it. The message wasn’t argumentative but rather just asked for the reasoning. It was a very respectful request, and the follow-up was good. Quote:The topic is perfectly appropriate, but when pretty much everything had been said that can be said and all that is left is emotional reactions, things can spiral quickly and turn contentious. That is true, especially, with a topic like porn and its effects on marriage – and particularly difficult is the tension between a “defender” like DA and women who react viscerally to it being defended. (which is what started to happen in the thread)
We tend to close a thread when it looks like contention is the only direction left, especially when such good comments have been made.
We have had multiple experiences like that – when a good discussion goes south and gets heated. When that happens, we have to end up deleting or editing comments – and I think it’s better to go ahead and close a thread than have to edit and delete comments – and issue warnings to individuals.
I’m okay reopening it, if that is what the admins and mods want – but,fwiw, I haven’t had any negative pushback in private messages from anyone.
I’m still good with it being closed, I agree with your reasoning. No it’s fine and it was going that way. I actually tried in my response to make it a tough two edged sword. It is complicated and very painful. Not just porn but sexual issues. I was partly giving DarkJedi a hard time, because I had just barely posted and he suggested locking it. Is this a place though where we might want to let people know that there are balanced LDS counselors to talk to. I would hate to lock a thread and leave someone who has deep emotions feeling dismissed? Maybe just add a quick end post and relocking it. If future lurkers read it and have some pain can we point them to a sounding board.
I really like that, mom3. I just added a concluding paragraph to my closing comment. Let me know if you think the wording is okay – and, if not, what you would suggest. Thanks!
Great job Ray. I wouldn’t change a word. Thanks. I gave that thread a wide berth. Maybe I should have checked it out. Quote:I gave that thread a wide berth. Maybe I should have checked it out.
I should have. I stayed till the end. Luckily we closed it soon after me.
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