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Joni wrote Quote:I don’t see why the EQ and the HP need to socialize separately from each other,
Well we wouldn’t want them to be like the Relief Society would we? I mean look at us clumped into cradle to grave groupings. Bleh.
In large wards where it is hard for people with relatively similar lives to get to know each other, I get it – even if I don’t like it as a general rule. Without that motivation (for strictly group-solidarity with such random application), I don’t like it in the slightest. Their loss – but, frankly, your characterization is a bit harsh, I think. (Unless, of course, they really were assholy in the way they responded.)
Quote:Ray wrote:
“Their loss – but, frankly, your characterization is a bit harsh, I think. (Unless, of course, they really were assholy in the way they responded.)”
They were a little too pleased to inform DH that the event was exclusively EQ.
I don’t think they were thinking about how it was perceived. I think they were focused on the cool fact that they got to go do something fun — and not everyone was invited. They got to turn someone down and it made them feel really happy and exclusive.
DH is just struggling right now. It hurts to watch. A little kindness goes a long ways. Because we try so hard as a family to extend ourselves on the behalf of others, it is hard sometimes to see that not reciprocated to someone who I love so immensely. It brings out my snark.
AP wrote Quote:DH is just struggling right now. It hurts to watch. A little kindness goes a long ways. Because we try so hard as a family to extend ourselves on the behalf of others, it is hard sometimes to see that not reciprocated to someone who I love so immensely. It brings out my snark.
Good for you girl. It’s what every good mama bear does.
Many of you may already know that my family participates in several different community Christian churches. One thing that I have noticed is that these other churches seem so open and willing to have us join in their activities. Yes, as non-members they may be looking at us as potential converts but it certainly doesn’t come across that way.
In the LDS church there are sometimes ward picnics or parties that are advertised as “bring your friends and neighbors”. This apparently does not extend to members of other wards as when I inquired I was told that it was really just a first ward activity.
I find this to be really sad. As former first ward members we know people and have friends in that ward. Since we moved out several years ago I imagine that there are new faces that I would like the chance to get to know. Why do these ward boundaries dictate our LDS social circles as much as they do?
Roy: You ask some excellent questions.
Two years ago, I approached our bishop (since released) about having a 16 yo LDS boy attend. He wasn’t attending his own ward due to bullying issues. His ward youth and YM leaders had been hateful to him as he came across as “gay”. He loved the LDS church and wanted to be included. I didn’t tell the bishop that we all suspected the boy was gay .. But he just hadn’t figured it out yet. (He quit attending church at age 11 and didn’t figure out he was gay until age 17.)
Our bishop was okay with him attending until I mentioned that his family was active. Suddenly, the bishop was fixated on this boy’s need to attend His ward with His family. Bishop was unwilling to have a young man attend a different ward and stake.
I think back to that situation and it still makes me really sad.
Our EQ is planning an EQ only activity. My concern was two fold: 1) How to advertise to guys that might not be regulars and 2) How to have an EQ only activity that does not turn people off and hurt people’s feelings.
The EQP said that he would make flyers and ask people to bring friends. I suggested that we may want to say something on the flyer about men only – brotherly bonding etc. If we do not say anything about the men only aspect then some may misunderstand and bring the whole family. If we say Elders only then that may seem to exclude non-members or prospective Elders. Best to just say men only and if we get some high priests in attendance – no worries.
For a ward to be so bothered by the age of men in attendance to an activity is bothersome. Especially if they know he already might feel excluded to some degree. This situation sucks and sorry you and your husband has to deal with it! :think: I think there’s an Aaronic Priesthood Commemoration Campout coming up in many stakes/wards this weekend. Bros only.
The HPs are welcome to all our EQ activities here. Thank God. amateurparent wrote:And Steve doesn’t qualify because he is a HP.
Tell them HPs only snore in Sacrament Meeting.
Roy wrote:One thing that I have noticed is that these other churches seem so open and willing to have us join in their activities. Yes, as non-members they may be looking at us as potential converts but it certainly doesn’t come across that way.
Largely because they’re not
justviewing you as potential converts, but as friends and neighbors. NightSG wrote:
amateurparent wrote:And Steve doesn’t qualify because he is a HP.
Tell them HPs only snore in Sacrament Meeting.
But that wouldn’t be true – they regularly snore in HPG as well. After all, “church sleep is among the healthiest of all sleeps.”
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