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Roy wrote:
Putting on my best armchair psychiatrist hat…Acceptance is our greatest desire, rejection is our biggest fear. When a TBM goes to church they feel acceptance and belonging. When beefster goes to church there is muted rejection. There is the ever present fear of rejection and the belief that if they only knew what is inside your head, they would turn their backs. That, IMO, is draining.
One of the reasons I come here to stayLDS is for acceptance. I feel understood, valued, and validated. It becomes the place where I can recharge my batteries and know that I am not crazy and I am not alone. Then I step forward and do the hard work of interacting with my religious community because I believe that it is worth it. This is the heritage that my ancestors passed down to me. There is much good there and I want my children and grandchildren to have access to that good. We talk about trading up. If I were to walk away from the church community, what would I replace it with?
Thank you for this, Roy. It explains so well how I often feel at church these days. It made me feel a little less alone to read this.
Only Love wrote:
Roy wrote:
Putting on my best armchair psychiatrist hat…Acceptance is our greatest desire, rejection is our biggest fear. When a TBM goes to church they feel acceptance and belonging. When beefster goes to church there is muted rejection. There is the ever present fear of rejection and the belief that if they only knew what is inside your head, they would turn their backs. That, IMO, is draining.
One of the reasons I come here to stayLDS is for acceptance. I feel understood, valued, and validated. It becomes the place where I can recharge my batteries and know that I am not crazy and I am not alone. Then I step forward and do the hard work of interacting with my religious community because I believe that it is worth it. This is the heritage that my ancestors passed down to me. There is much good there and I want my children and grandchildren to have access to that good. We talk about trading up. If I were to walk away from the church community, what would I replace it with?
Thank you for this, Roy. It explains so well how I often feel at church these days. It made me feel a little less alone to read this.
It’s too bad we can’t find this at church, and that there aren’t more accepted ways to be on different paths at church. But knowing others out there feel this way helps, even if not verbalized in the wards.
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