Feelings Buried Alive Never Die

[Anonymous]

Featherina wrote:

SamBee wrote:

I’m afraid I don’t have much good advice here, Featherina, but I would suggest looking at activities outside church. There ought to be other groups. And if most of the town in Mormon, there’s a good chance you’ll meet people you go to church with, in a different context, and get to know them that way. If not, you’re still a member of the local book club, sky diving team or sewing circle etc, which means you’re not completely isolated!

I’ve noticed people get to know others if their children get friendly with each other too.

I always try and keep a life outside church. It’s difficult sometimes, but you can fall back on one or the other, if things get bad in one sphere I suppose.

Good idea, Sam, thanks.

I believe & have heard I live in the most Mormon of Mormon areas.

There are good aspects of it – I feel safe, physically. Probably the best unofficial neighborhood watch in the world! 😆

FWIW, people in most rural areas are like this… but I think it might be interesting to meet members in other contexts. Or even meet decent non-members.

[Anonymous]

SamBee wrote:

FWIW, people in most rural areas are like this… but I think it might be interesting to meet members in other contexts. Or even meet decent non-members.

Yeah, but finding non-members around here might require a private detective. 😆

Good ideas, thanks, Sam. I’m going to try a new class soon.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to be starting an art class here soon. It’s partly because I want to meet nice ladies of my own age (if I’m honest), but also because it’s nice to learn skills like drawing and painting. Makes a change from the middle aged male philistines I seem to hang out with.

I already do a playwrights’ workshop. The output there is mixed, but it’s most useful to me for getting my scripts read out by different people.

[Anonymous]

SamBee wrote:

I’m going to be starting an art class here soon. It’s partly because I want to meet nice ladies of my own age (if I’m honest), but also because it’s nice to learn skills like drawing and painting. Makes a change from the middle aged male philistines I seem to hang out with.

I already do a playwrights’ workshop. The output there is mixed, but it’s most useful to me for getting my scripts read out by different people.

Sounds fun, Sam!

[Anonymous]

Featherina wrote:

SamBee wrote:

I’m going to be starting an art class here soon. It’s partly because I want to meet nice ladies of my own age (if I’m honest), but also because it’s nice to learn skills like drawing and painting. Makes a change from the middle aged male philistines I seem to hang out with.

I already do a playwrights’ workshop. The output there is mixed, but it’s most useful to me for getting my scripts read out by different people.

Sounds fun, Sam!

Yeah, they’re not bad. I used to do language night classes too, which were fun, as you are forced to interact with people. I’ve forgotten nearly all the Japanese and Russian I once learnt though!

[Anonymous]

Hi Featherina,

my heart goes out to you. i do understand not fitting in. i still feel that way from time to time but when it involves church it makes going a challenge I am sure.

would you ever consider moving out of your current neighborhood – away from these current neighbors ?

there is an old ward of mine i haven’t been to in years because i didn’t really feel i fit in and i would rather forget past bad memories of that old ward. revisiting old places with former associates would just re-open old wounds for me.

i’m a new person now. i’m happier without that old ward. for the longest time i felt hurt that i would never feel at home in that ward. i felt sad that i never really fit in with that “cliquish” ward – but now I realize that i really don’t need that ward to be happy. and life is like that with many social sphere’s we may encounter. social groups have certain expectations and rules and sometimes we aren’t happy in those groups. just depart from them and make your own reality of existence elsewhere.

Mike

[Anonymous]

Thanks, BeLikeChrist.

If I were single, I’d have been out of here a long time ago.

But maybe that wasn’t so great – always running from problems – like I did.

Yes, I’ve considered moving, but there are considerations.

I know what you mean about feeling down from past relationships or experiences.

I guess everything we think/feel is in our perspective – & a change in perspective would change everything.

But I think we all need some boosts in this change in perspective… Music, internet, moving.

It could be partly just my phase of life… being a mom of young kids.

I know other moms who feel somewhat socially isolated because their lives are mostly about their kids.

A time & season for everything… Hopefully I find a way to maintain healthy habits in all seasons.

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