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Any tips? Believe that your Mojo is AWE-INSPIRING and NEEDED by the world!! [NOTE: The more you believe in your own Mojo, the more your choices will drive that decision.]
There is a reason why “faking it [or at least not allowing disbelief to wreak halt your attempts] until you make it” sometimes works.
You’ve got a few options: -Pray to find your lost mojo (hint: It’s likely in your pant’s pockets from the day before, or lost between the couch cushions).
-Track down those who stole your mojo, and teach them a lesson.
-Purchase some new mojo from your local mojo dealer.
-Make your own mojo.
:clap: Thanks, yes that’s how I’ve felt a bit recently. It may be the winter blues partly but yes it’s difficult to think how to get this back. I feel like I am trudging through life just now, feeling old, wondering where the world is going and wondering if I want to be around much longer.I’m also trying to work out whether this is something that has been going on for while or whether this is a new thing.
Advice for mojo: Boyd K. Packer wrote:
“Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without.”
Similar boat :waves: I think mine is a winter thing… but then if this improves in the spring/summer, my allergies will get worse due to pollen and bugs will abound…
Do something you remember enjoying before. Whether that is cooking, painting, building something, whatever. Retouch it. I am also a huge believer in meditation. Even just for 5 mins. a day.
Gratitude. Scientifically it has been proven that gratitude can change moods. Even over simple things. Can you walk, see, touch, hear, talk. List 3 things morning and night you are grateful for. A yummy sandwich, good memories, StayLDS website. Build on it. Our brain begins to churn a new when we actively collect gratitude’s.
(Here I do my F&T thing! ☺) I actually think the church is the best thing in my life at the moment. No, not everything is perfect but I even enjoy my calling which keeps me occupied. And my social life in the church is generally happier than outside it.
Quote:I actually think the church is the best thing in my life at the moment. No, not everything is perfect but I even enjoy my calling which keeps me occupied. And my social life in the church is generally happier than outside it.
No shame in that.
This past Sunday as I sat through a Relief Society lesson I didn’t like, I looked around the room and thought about all the women I love in my ward. All of our announcements that day were service or interpersonal relationship related. Real connectedness type things. There is much to enjoy at church. Congrats that it is that place for you.
I’m also a big believer in meditation. Mindfulness works well for me. Also, the research shows pretty unambiguously that mindfulness meditation lowers anxiety, stress, and depression in the long term by strengthening functional connections in the “default mode network” – the collection of nodes that’s active while your mind is wandering or between attentional tasks. (FWIW, according to MRI studies, weak functional connections in the default mode network are implicated in an ever-growing list of problems, including anxiety, depression, ADHD, autism and RLS.) https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/ As a sensitive person, I’m partial to choiceless awareness meditation.
Also, this has helped me deal with social rejection lately:
Turns out that the vagus nerve – the neural pathway from brain to vital organs that’s used to give us warm fuzzy feelings of belonging (among many, many other functions) – can be used in reverse to send signals that calm the mind. Most people already do this: it’s what taking a deep breath when we’re stressed does.
Also, I’ve been drinking coffee for the caffeine and antioxidants. (Taking caffeine pills and eating more colorful fruits and vegetables would also work, but the coffee at work is free and I’ve discovered that I love cappuccino.) This is for both health and mood. Aging, chronic illness and depression can all increase the concentration of pro-inflammatory cytokines in our blood, which saps our energy, makes us more resistant to insulin, makes it harder for us to lose weight, stresses our hearts, etc., etc. Caffeine and antioxidants have repeatedly been shown to reduce these pro-inflammatory markers. Multiple longitudinal studies on coffee consumption with very large cohorts show that coffee drinkers live years longer on average.
(SamBee, I know you’ve been against caffeine consumption, but you should check out the studies of its effects on the pro-inflammatory cytokines IL-6, IL-1-beta, and TNF-alpha. Also look for how these things lower mood and motivation using the keywords “sickness behavior” and “dopamine”.)
So… in short, I’ve gotten most of my mojo back using meditation to order my mind, vagus nerve stimulation to blunt the pain of not belonging, and caffeine and antioxidants to improve health, mood and motivation.
I’ve consumed plenty of caffeine in my lifetime – decades worth. It disturbs my sleep patterns. It’s like a wrestler, it picks you up then slams you down. I do consume some from time to time in soft drinks even to this day, but very occasionally.
Having been on caffeine and off it, I think I am better off it.
However,
no chemical whatsoever has succeeded in giving me a motivation or reason in life– that’s something I have to work on myself. Antidepressants merely taught me that many of my issues are not in my head. There is no pill to change your surroundings, dismantle the crap in society or improve your life circumstances. They are a kind of pain killer – they don’t always get rid of the cause of the pain.
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