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As much as I miss my dad, it has been absolutely wonderful to spend so much time with my mom, my siblings and some extended family. This is what it’s all about, and I recognize how blessed I am in that regard. I also am glad I’ve had time now and then to pop in here off and on and stay in touch – even if I did take an unnecessary swing at one of my younger brothers here. (Sorry, again, cwald.) Thanks for being who all of you are. It helps more than you know, I’m sure, that you aren’t a bunch of bickering hotheads – that this is more like a family than a bunch of grumpy strangers shouting at each other or wallowing in the mud.
Apology accepted. Find peace.
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Interesting couple of months: I just learned that my father-in-law had a stroke today (while serving a temple mission in the Dominican Republic with my mother-in-law) and is in emergency surgery to deal with bleeding on the brain. It doesn’t look very good at this point, according to the very sketchy email my mother-in-law was able to send to her kids.
Prayers / thoughts for my in-law family would be appreciated, especially Mom. She is a wonderful woman, and, some issues notwithstanding, Dad is a loving man who would do and has done anything for his family.
Man, you guys have had a rough few months. Prayers and positive thoughts going your way. Please tell your wife how sorry I am.
I’m very sorry Ray. My family will be praying for yours. Sorry about that Ray, thoughts and prayers with you Ray – prayers and healing thoughts are headed your way. You are a remarkable man to me. I am praying that the healing answers will come soon and swiftly. Thanks for sharing your pain with us. Prayers and thoughts to your in-laws. I hope the family is bearing up, and thanks for considering us your virtual ward members. My father-in-law is in stable but critical condition. They probably will try to take him out of his medically-induced coma sometime in the next few days. My mother-in-law sent an update via email, and she said something that made me pause again and admit that Mormonism really does get some things exactly right. She said:
Quote:We all want a miracle, and I want my husband back as his normal self. However, we all know he would not want to live without being able to function in a meaningful way. Please keep that in mind in your prayers.
My eleven-year-old daughter posted the following on Facebook, before talking with either me or my wife (since my kids found out about it before we did) and before reading what her grandmother wrote. (We were at the temple when the calls and texts and emails were flying.)
Quote:Hopes and prayers for my G’pa. He had a stroke and is now in a medically induced coma. I hope he’s okay, but I am praying for what’s best for him and my G’ma.
Yes, we do get some things exactly right.
The doctors brought my father-in-law out of sedation today. He is totally unresponsive. My mother-in-law has signed a Do Not Resuscitate order, and his body will be shutting down over the next few days. He won’t be dead officially until that process is complete, but he effectively is gone now. My wife and I are concerned most about our daughter serving a mission in Germany. I lost a grandfather while on my mission, but she will have lost both of hers within a seven week period – and she will have had to hear about both of them from her Mission President. He is a wonderful, gentle man whom she loves dearly, but it still will be hard – especially since this one will come with no warning. She and my father-in-law are polar opposites in multiple ways, and she has been exasperated quite often by him, but she loves him, nonetheless, because she understands he has a good heart and has done the best he could.
Thanks for being here and letting me use this forum as an outlet over the last two months. It means a lot to me.
My condolences, Ray. All of my best thoughts go out to you and your family. I sent an email to my daughter’s Mission President explaining what had happened and asking him to talk with her about it – to make sure she hears about it in a setting different than the internet cafe where she accesses emails on P-Day. I mentioned that I lost a grandfather while on my mission, but she now has lost both of hers in less than two months. A few minutes ago, he called my cell phone and told me he had called and talked extensively with her. He gave me a phone number where we can reach her. He said she is waiting for our call. My wife is on the phone with her as I am typing this.
I want to share a small part of our conversation, just because it hit me that I should.
He mentioned how much he loves my daughter, and he said, “I know how much she needs to talk with family right now, since I’ve lost both of my sons already. If I’m feeling down about something, I know I can call her. She will cheer me up every time. I need to return that favor.” I told him that I describe her as a “force of nature”, and he laughed – then said, “That’s a great description.”
I know there are issues with individual church leaders, but most of them are good, caring, kind people doing the best they can – and I am really grateful right now that her Mission President is one them.What a wonderful story, Ray. I agree that most church leaders are good people doing their best, and most of them also have a heart and some common sense. I’m glad your daughter’s mission president is one of those. I am sorry for your multiple losses, my thoughts are with you brother.
So sorry Ray! I have not been able to really be here for a bit, so just now seeing this. My prayers are going up for your whole family. -sigh- Yeah, this is the life we live.
I lost my grandfather, who I was named after, while on a mission. That haunted me for many years….not being there with family I mean.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
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