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You’ll have to honeymoon in Bismarck, ND. 🙂 Old-Timer wrote:You’ll have to honeymoon in Bismarck, ND.
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Hey…that is only one state over…we’ll be neighbors……oh wait…that’s 11 hours away…they are big states in big sky country.
😆 I plan to make it to Mt Rushmore some day…I’ll let you know if I’m in the neighborhood.
Hi everyone…I like sharing with you all behind the scenes a little when I still have some things I don’t want to share openly on the forum. I know we all struggle from time to time…it’s life. It is hard sometimes, and that isn’t patronizing in any way…it seriously is hard.
But…I wanted to share some good news…this Saturday I get married (outside the temple). I can’t express the happiness I’ve had since starting this new relationship and now getting engaged to be remarried. At first, after the divorce, I vowed I wouldn’t get into a serious relationship for a long long time…after all that happened to me last summer…I was pretty messed up emotionally and not ready to give to a new relationship.
But I can’t express it…people would just have to see how happy things are for me now. It truly has been a miracle, and all I can say is we are all better off healing from trials when we have love and goodness in our lives to hold on to while we get over the bad stuff. Things don’t happen in my time table like I think it most likely should…but when good things happen…grab them when you can…that’s my philosophy.
My kids, my fiance’s kids, our extended families…everyone who is around us sees the happy home we are making and how good we are doing. Life is easy and peaceful and good in a healthy relationship.
I just wanted to share some good news. Saturday is the wedding. It will be a great celebration. I’ve never been so happy in my life.
Mazel Tov – to you and your new family. May the Gods pour down generosity and joy for years to come.
mom3 wrote:May the Gods pour down generosity and joy for years to come.
Thanks. Hopefully they don’t pour down rain…it’s an outdoor wedding.Heber13 wrote:Things don’t happen in my time table like I think it most likely should…but when good things happen…grab them when you can…that’s my philosophy.
I like it! Congratulations. I’m super happy for you. Sometimes my girls talk about divorce like it’s the worst thing that could possibly happen to them, and, while I appreciate the devastation that a divorce can be, I counter with real-life stories of people regrouping, moving on andbeing happy. Like you. :thumbup: After my brother got remarried (after sacrificing greatly for 15 years to try to make it work), he told me he finally understood what marriage is supposed to be – and that it really can be joyful. It is impossible to express how much that meant to me. I hope you are as happy moving forward as he is now.
Congrats! I’m happy for you! :clap: Old-Timer wrote:After my brother got remarried (after sacrificing greatly for 15 years to try to make it work), he told me he finally understood what marriage is supposed to be – and that it really can be joyful.
Ray…it’s impossible to express to you how deeply I understand your brother and how much that means to have you share his words with me.It is early in a new relationship and I’m not an idiot thinking all is better…I know life is full of more things to be thrown my way…I know ANY relationship is better than my last one and I could rushing into things…but I can’t express how energetic and free I feel to be able to be in a healthy relationship where someone supports me and works along side of me, instead of against me, in the home where I finally feel there is a place of refuge from the world out there. I would not be doing this again unless I felt it was perfect for me…and it is.
Thanks for your words. I have hope I have found what your brother has, and what I always wanted. My fiance believes God has put us together after both being through similarly difficult first marriages. She knows I don’t think God does much in our lives…and she loves me anyway. We skipped church last week and went to the mountains. Her dad passed away from cancer, as did mine. She walks in the mountains and talks to him, like I do when I want to talk to my dad. She understands me and my doubts and my beliefs. She respects me MORE for it…because she has them too. I’m so lucky to have her in my life.
It is an incredibly powerful thing to have someone else just say, “I understand your heart. I love you just the way you are.” (She also thinks my ex is the devil incarnate…and I love her more for that too!)
She wants me to take her to the temple some day. But tells me she is not ready yet, hates garments, and hates how the women are treated as 2nd class to men (and I love her more for that too). But she is happy she has someone to inspire her to want to be ready for the temple someday…and so…my divorce was a bad chapter in my life…I turn the page…and this new chapter is beautiful and good.
If Saturday rains on our outdoor wedding…I have a partner who will laugh with me…and we’ll decide to move it indoors and do it inside…it won’t matter…as long as we’re together. We’re not happy based on the changing weather.
It is truly amazing to have someone like that to live with. I’m blessed.
God involved in any of this??? Who cares…it is goodness in my life…I will thank God for it. I feel like I’m grabbing the golden ring…and really have a chance at good things ahead.
My Protestant minister friend is coming on Friday from Colorado to marry us. My kids are all flying up. My ex tried to prevent my youngest from leaving Colorado to go…but my divorce lawyer was able to get the judge to allow it. My oldest daughter is disappointed I’m not getting remarried in the temple…but she has no idea the bureaucracy and ridiculousness of getting temple sealings canceled and waiting a year to get sealed anew in the temple. But that is all part of the family situation I have. And I LOVE it. It will be quite the scene. Good things ahead.
Congrats! My heart soars as I read your story. :thumbup:
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