Turinturambar,
Your letter comes from the heart and touched me – I don’t think you need to change anything and I hope things work out for you. Certainly if your local leaders have the true spirit with them, they will be compassionate and understanding.
For what it is worth, there a quite a few people out there, especially in this forum who would like to see the church change toward the LGBT community. I for one hope to be some sort of catalyst in my own ward for getting people to see a broader view. I also expect to get in trouble from time to time about it, but that’s fine by me.