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Hi, my husband recently became a convert to the LDS church. When he was baptized, he sincerly believed in the gosple and the LDS church. Since he was baptized, all those who zealously fellowshipped him, have to all intents and purposes, ignored him. He really feels abandon. We tried to schedule an appointment with the bishop to discuss a temple recommend, but our calls have not been returned for the last 2 months. I have tried to explain to my husband that the church is full of falible people but, I don’t think it is helping. He has been talking with people at work who are steering him to anti-mormon literature. I am hoping that he will be able to see that there are good and worthwhile things in the church and I am hoping that this site can help both of us. Hi, segrader. If you and your husband choose to make the LDS Church your faith community and home, I hope we can help you fulfill all the positive and meaningful intent of that decision. I have found that my interactions here have helped me look inward and outward in honesty and love. Welcome! I hope you and your DH can find the answers you’re looking for. That is too bad about not hearing back from the bishop. Did you try to set up appointments with the ward secretary?
Welcome to our community. I hope we can offer help and advice. Hang in there. A good thing about our Church is that everyone gets a chance to be involved in running it. The bad thing about our Church is that everyoneis involved in running it. 
It is a blessing, and it is a great opportunity to have love and patience for others.
I understand how hard this seems for your husband. I feel for you.
Welcome! This is a wonderful place. Everyone here is very supportive. You can read my intro if you want to know more about me. I am active, believing LDS, but my husband became disaffected about 2 months ago. He was not born in the church, but has been a member for over 20 years. He attends church to support our family. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk. Welcome, segrader. I’m sorry things haven’t gone as you feel they should since your husband joined. What a time of ups and downs it must be for you both!
I feel this way all the time in church, that while some people disappoint me, there are lots of other people trying to do their best and others can reach me when I feel let down by some.
Going to the temple is a good goal for you both to have. If you feel the bishop isn’t giving you time, ask the High Priest Group Leader to have a chat with you and express your feelings to him…that is totally appropriate (if you feel comfortable doing so). The other route is to move ahead and setup an appointment with a member of the Stake Presidency. They have to give your husband a temple recommend anyway, so seek them out.
As I’m sure you know, but perhaps are being reminded again, the beauty of the gospel and teachings of Christ are not the same as the administration of the church. It can be hard to segregate those…but I have felt I have had to. I look forward to hearing more of your ideas, questions, concerns, and thoughts. Welcome! [hug]
Your bishop could have simply lost the note, or not received the message. I encourage you to seek him out, and let him know your intentions. I really doubt he is purposely ignoring you. I agree with Mormon Heretic on this one. IME, bishops are often extraordinarily busy people. Do you have home teachers? Can your DH reach out to the Elder’s Quorum President for support? I would also add that people just get wrapped up in the drama of their own lives and often don’t realize that someone feels excluded. I’d encourage your DH to reach out to others himself, and to give the bishop and others another shot. I am wondering where the Ward Mission Leader is on all of this…..not to mention the ward missionaries. Aren’t they suppose to fellowship directly with new converts for the first year or so? I think the church needs to step it up with regards to retention efforts. We talk about it, but we need to address it more fully. I wonder if a meeting with your bishop, your WML, and the EQP might not be in order to discuss where the break down is happening and then to address solutions. If I were a bishop, I would certainly want to be made aware….not so that I could jump in and do it all ….but so that I could delegate and direct those delegations specifically and properly. And then on the other hand…..at some point we all have to learn to walk on our own. Perhaps your DH got nudged out the door a little too soon. But he can learn to be spiritually self sufficient too. I hope his struggles with lead him back to his early budding testimony feelings and not to fan the flames of offendedness.
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