How are you handling the chaos?

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Minyan Man wrote:

This is another side to this issue of dealing with a pandemic. I know there are members who have moved into

our ward during the lockdown & we haven’t been able to introduce ourselves except by email or a text.

Ha. We went and unloaded the move-in’s truck. Masks, gloves, sanitizer & a heat index of 110. That’s every day but you get it.

Minyan Man wrote:

If it hasn’t already, we are going to see more people & members in emotional or mental troubles because of the lack of personal, human contact. I can see a little within my own family.

The last of the people we hung with have moved away. Of the members under 100, every conversation is all politics now. Like, really acerbic politics. It was like that before the pandemic. My kids and I are happier hanging together. Less dark vibes.

Minyan Man wrote:

These are interesting time. I hope this pandemic doesn’t last much longer. Some of us may not survive.

I hope I’m wrong.

At least when the pandemic is gone your ward will be disease free. I think what’s infected our ward is going to be here for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anti-anxiety medication helps…

[Anonymous]

We have some community supports for our family and have entered counseling. They have been a godsend.

My best friend in our branch stopped talking to me because it’s her way of coping with stuff (has nothing to do with me). It still hurts a lot and makes it harder to consider coming back when church is in full swing.

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AmyJ wrote:

My best friend in our branch stopped talking to me because it’s her way of coping with stuff (has nothing to do with me). It still hurts a lot and makes it harder to consider coming back when church is in full swing.

I was on the other end of that. I eventually stopped responding after a prolonged period (as in years) of increasingly awful crises. After a while, one runs out of superhuman strength.

I had a number of intertwined biz/friend relationships and I was having challenges (eg: no fuel, no food, overwhelmed) that left me no way to respond to their crises. They were genuine friends but after so many times they move you into the “not there for me” category.

I do get that they were hurt by me ghosting them. I get why. But what I think what sabotages our future relationship is their belief that if I could get there once, I could get there again. Well, they’re not wrong. My bad decade defied a lot of odds. There’s no rule that says I can’t get another one.

I mean – I don’t think it’ll happen again because bad things happen to other people. I guess to them, though, I’m other people.

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NoahVail wrote:

I was on the other end of that. I eventually stopped responding after a prolonged period (as in years) of increasingly awful crises. After a while, one runs out of superhuman strength.

I get that. But see, I am great at being a friend in that kind of situation. That I could handle….

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I had a number of intertwined biz/friend relationships and I was having challenges (eg: no fuel, no food, overwhelmed) that left me no way to respond to their crises. They were genuine friends but after so many times they move you into the “not there for me” category.

Maybe that’s partly it. We are not facing the same challenges to the same degree – but no one is. That was always clear from the beginning of our friendship – I didn’t expect her to be in the same boat as me. I review the chats we had – her body language was fully engaged and she pointed out the ways that talking to me helped her. She also mentioned from the beginning that she does this and she is a bit reserved sometimes.

I still want to be her friend, I am just sad that she does not want to connect as a friend these days.

[Anonymous]

For me the chaos that is occurring deals with more issues than the Covid virus.

There seems to be emotional & mental sickness throughout society in the past year.

If the history of this past year was a plot in a movie, no one would believe it.

I was recently listening to a broadcast on PBS radio about a school board or city council meeting in the Salt Lake area.

The meeting was open to the public and the topic of discussion was the use of masks for the coming school year.

The meeting was less than 5 minutes long because the speaker leading the discussion was shouted down by parents who

said that the wearing of masks violated individual rights to choose. This event could of occurred anywhere in the US.

It is not unique to Utah.

IMO chaos occurs in a pandemic when we don’t respect or listen or openly exchange ideas or potential solutions to a

shared health emergency. This is just one example I see on a daily basis. It seems like we, as a country, are going

through a shared mental or emotional breakdown. These is indeed, a strange time to be living in.

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