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The following was posted on our ward face book page. Quote:Hey there sisters – fyi – Costco has women’s Bermuda shorts (in regular & plus sizes) right now for $15 that are actually pretty cute! Knowing the struggle of finding decent shorts long enough, thought you’d like to know.
Fashion, Woman, and Mormon just don’t work together well.
I’d tell you what’s on our LDS women’s FB page but it’s a closed group. To quote Ray Charles, “I can’t see $#!+” It’s either secret or too sacred. Knowing me, I’d vote the latter.
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Some time ago I had a friend who went to church with me occasionally in the past. She told me she didn’t think she could ever join even though she liked what they taught about families, standards, etc because she could never wear the mormon underwear. I was a little put off at the time (more of a TBM then) but if you don’t grow up with it I can see how it’d be a big change for someone that already has an established sense of style and wanting to dress a certain way. I’d never seen her wear anything more revealing than a tank top or a dress/skirt that hit a few inches above the knees so it’s not like she was walking around in immodest outfits. For her it was a big deal though. I can see why now. It’s hard to explain to somebody why seeing a woman’s shoulder is so scandalous.
I think this is another one of those blanket rules to cover the minority. For a few people seeing that extra inch or two or skin might induce dirty thoughts so it’s best to play it safe. Kinda surprised all LDS women don’t have to wear XXXL muu muu’s so there is no definition of a figure present to save us from ourselves.
The caveats here are “actually” and “pretty” and “decent.” Also, as my kids like to say about first world problems . . . #thestruggle. I am getting really tired of feeling like every clothing decision is a huge ordeal and I have to buy things that I don’t like because the things I do like are just a half inch away from working; it’s getting harder because garments for women are getting longer in the legs and arms every time a new style comes out. I’m not even talking about wearing anything sexy or revealing, just normal clothing that makes sense in my climate. It’s 120 degrees here in the summer! It is increasingly incomprehensible to me how people living in the moderate climate of Utah are making clothing choices for women living in hot or tropical climates without any understanding of the health and psychological well-being of women. My daughter’s doctor was just telling me that yeast infections are on the increase because people are wearing yoga pants for normal wear, and they are basically the same thing as Carinessa bottoms in terms of the fabric’s ability to breathe. Men don’t get yeast infections or suffer from low libido when their underwear is unflattering. Men very seldom have eating disorders or cut themselves.
hawkgrrrl wrote:I am getting really tired of feeling like every clothing decision is a huge ordeal and I have to buy things that I don’t like because the things I do like are just a half inch away from working; it’s getting harder because garments for women are getting longer in the legs and arms every time a new style comes out.
I commented on this in another thread. It had been maybe two years or something since I had last bought garments and when I went and bought new ones they were at least an inch if not closer to 2 inches longer. That’s just ridiculous. I had to go buy 2 new pairs of shorts just to fit over the new ones. The sleeves were even longer and wouldn’t work with some of the current t-shirts I’ve had forever. I ended up just wearing the old garments most of the time even though they were pretty much grey and ratty looking. I really do feel sorry for the women, it’s got to be so hard to find decent clothes.
hawkgrrrl wrote:suffer from low libido when their underwear is unflattering.
I’ve always thought mormons just must be really serious about following that multiply and replenish the earth council for having so many kids
Is that true about garment sleeves and bottoms getting longer for women? I was planning to buy new ones sometime and try wearing them again. Idk if I could handle them being longer. I’ve already had such a hard time finding clothes in the past with the length they are. Sometimes I feel selfish for the fact that I don’t wear garments at the moment because of how ugly they make me feel, and how uncomfortable they are. But I haven’t worn them in 6 months and I feel like someday I want to wear them again because I really do enjoy the temple, but I feel so much more comfortable and pretty in regular underwear. Whenever I think about someday going back to wearing them, I feel very unhappy about it. I feel so free without all that extra fabric. And trying to put a bra on with garments, over or under, is really not fun. Wearing them under the bra is the worst, but even over the bra, then you have to worry about the garments sliding and the symbols showing through your shirts. This is reminding me about all the resentment I had built up against garments over the years. I really wish they weren’t required to go into the temple. Always Thinking wrote:Sometimes I feel selfish for the fact that I don’t wear garments at the moment because of how ugly they make me feel, and how uncomfortable they are. But I haven’t worn them in 6 months and I feel like someday I want to wear them again because I really do enjoy the temple, but I feel so much more comfortable and pretty in regular underwear. Whenever I think about someday going back to wearing them, I feel very unhappy about it. I feel so free without all that extra fabric. And trying to put a bra on with garments, over or under, is really not fun. Wearing them under the bra is the worst, but even over the bra, then you have to worry about the garments sliding and the symbols showing through your shirts. This is reminding me about all the resentment I had built up against garments over the years. I really wish they weren’t required to go into the temple.
Always Thinking, I can only tell you my thinking. I used to feel selfish and guilty, but I just don’t anymore. I can’t tell you how the switch flipped, but it’s never going back. I wear garments on Sundays, in the temple, and many days beyond those, but not all the time. I don’t think God would be pleased with garments functioning like a medieval hairshirt. Which is what they were for me when I believed I had to wear them 24/7.Other women feel differently. I talked with someone in our stake who is at the beginning of a massive shift in her belief. She’s much more inclined to leave the church altogether than I am, to stop paying tithing or attend or have a calling. But she’s fine with wearing garments.
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