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Just as information to help everyone understand and be aware if the general topic comes up and a group member or lurker says something insensitive or judgmental: Khadijah is a transgender woman, born biologically as a male. She has written on another forum, under a different name, about seeking gender reassignment surgery. She grew up in an ultra-conservative family and found comfort a few years ago in a supportive LDS community – until the announcement of the policy forbidding baptism of children with same-sex parents.
This background helps explain why she couldn’t be baptized. I’m not certain if she knows about the recent change to that policy, but I don’t want to bring it up, since I don’t want to risk chasing her away if she doesn’t want anyone to know.
Again, I just want to let you all know what I found in order to help her the best way possible as a participant.
Thank you for the information. I assumed that there was a language barrier. We are here for her to share as much or as little as she may need. Thanks for the info. Some statements/answers seemed pretty coy but I wasn’t about to ask because people share what they want and feel comfortable with and were it me I’d not want to be asked. There are certainly wards that would welcome her and make her feel comfortable and there are those who would do the exact opposite. I appreciate her focus on the sacrament and sacrament meeting. I think we as admins/mods do need to be aware of and mindful of these situations, especially so that we can “police” the forum if something insensitive is brought up.
Her most recent post regarding Joel 2:28 is a bit more out there than usual. Armchair psychologist and poor judge time… Khadijah wrote:Recently I’ve had some dreams that were absolutely compelling, and so strong that I am fearful of telling anyone I know, or even the Crisis Line. It’s been prophetic stuff well supported in the Bible. I can’t tell anyone else because everyone is under so much pressure that I think it might terrorize people.
I see this as a cry for attention. It’s inviting people to ask what the dream was and to worry over the crisis line comment. I’m not saying that it should be ignored, just that it’s a cry for attention.
She may not get much social interaction in real life, less so with the quarantine, even less so because she feels rejected by the church. There’s nothing wrong with wanting attention. I believe that feeling loved is a human need. My only problem with that thread and others she has created is that it’s hard to spin up a dialog. From her posts she appears to have some belief in biblical inerrancy. It’s going to be hard for people here to engage when one side of the conversation is definitive statements citing the bible or other scripture.
I not sure how to respond. “Fear not…”? But then she’ll create another thread in the same vein.
It’s a tough time for her, I’m just not sure how to help.
I totally agree, Nibbler, and the shear frequency of posts seems, often repetitive, would also indicate to me attention seeking. I also agree seeking some attention is probably warranted. Not everyone is as good at social distancing as I am. 
That said, I take extra effort in trying to respond to her but I don’t know how to respond to this one. The voice in my head (at least one of them) says “If you don’t think you should talk about it then why are you talking about it?” My out loud voice isn’t going to say that though.
I have a plan to spin the conversation using a Segway of the Joel 2:28 scripture. I will see how it goes.
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