Kick ‘er when she’s down…

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Sorry for your experiences. I have been through many and if you want you can IM me as I don’t share them usually. It is a very big frustration for those in the church that don’t have a matching personality type.

The church is looking to profess with matching personality types. Sometimes at the cost if shaping others into people they are not, or in my situation the thought of “you can’t make an omelet without breaking some eggs”. Seems to apply in my situation. The paradox of expanding a business based on lay and volunteer membership.

Trouble is, many don’t seem to grasp the concept of what a volunteer really means. In doing so sometimes, as in my and probably your situation they can get authoritative or aggressive really quickly with non compliance. They are looking to run a huge international organization on volunteers. That will never run smoothly as they would like, no organization this size with the thought of ever increasing and growing bigger ever runs smoothly. Supply and demand, more demand then supply, some in positions of authority will get frustrated by this and become aggressive. Unlike what it appears on the outside, it has little to do with doctrine and more to do with mixing different personality types into a stressful

Situation of getting “everything” done with a huge demand and short supply. Something the church really can’t change but tries to as no institution has ever accomplished what they are trying to. The military was/is also facing a supply and demand problem which it tries to solve with agrees ice recruiting. Unsuccessfully to as well.

People just don’t respond to aggressive behavior like they used to. Many don’t snap on live like they used to generations ago.

I believe the church will eventually reconcile it can’t move forward with this behavior effectively and give training. Aggressiveness is uncalled for and most assuredly an unsustainable business practice in today’s environment.

So sorry for your experiences and can empathize with you. As I have been through this as well.

In fact I go to therapy to learn how to manage aggressive types and learn to be assertive to them.

For those that don’t know or haven’t learned to be assertive. Aggressive church type personality will lead to endless stress and emotionally, spiritually drained. Also being around black and white thinkers is also emotionally draining(they can be found everywhere) just in public places that encourage it their voices are and will always be heard more and more loudly.

It is to liken into walking in egg shells. Very draining.

Seek advice from a good source or therapist if you can on learning to be assertive and how to deal with black and white thinkers. It will help a lot in managing your situation, unless you can change it.

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