Loneliness — those who are unmarried because of whatever

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Rob4Hope wrote:

… you have NO IDEA how grateful and open people are with me BECAUSE they are not use to honesty). Dating is fun,…and crazy. But there it is.

haha…actually…I do have an idea. I was told the same thing, all the time, since I just was open and honest with people. And also told about how many guys were just dating to have sex…which really shocked me…thinking it was supposed to be LDS dating…I was naive not realizing what really goes on out there.

…but there it is.

So…to the point of the post…the church is hard I think for unmarried. Our stake did a support group for it…but it was pretty lame.

In the end, you either feel you fit in, or you don’t and it is harder to stay involved when not many things are geared towards those with different circumstances.

I found many really nice people who were sensitive to differences, even if they didn’t understand what being unmarried in the church was like, they were good people who reached out to include people like me.

And I brought a book to church to read.

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Man (and woman) is not meant to be alone. It really is that simple.

That is right near the start of the eternal play we call the endowment, but I don’t think most members (even leaders) really understand and accept it totally. If we all did, we would look at being single throughout mortal life differently – and we would look at our current policies regarding LGBT people differently – etc.

We rightly chalk up many of the problems faced within Catholicism historically to the policy that made nuns and priests remain single and celibate, but we rarely examine our own manifestations of that same misguided policy.

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Old-Timer wrote:

We rightly chalk up many of the problems faced within Catholicism historically to the policy that made nuns and priests remain single and celibate, but we rarely examine our own manifestations of that same misguided policy.

I marvel that in the church, it seems that celibacy is sometimes celebrated as an act of heroism or even spiritual superiority. I am aware, for example, that some of the research Finlayson-Fife discovered that spirituality and sexuality are set at variance in many LDS cultural pockets. If you “go without” one, you increase in the others, and vice versa. What a damning and damaging message that is to so many marriages and people.

Anyway,…a comment online with the original post. I have found that for me, sometimes being alone is more difficult to deal with than at other times. I, for example, hate to eat alone. I would rather eat my lunch with an enemy than alone.

Go figure. :crazy:

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