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This might be the wrong place to post but do any of you know of a forum like this discussing marriage and all the ups and downs associated with marriage and life in general?(this is not about a faith crisis) I’m looking for an lds forum. My wife is going through a really hard time these days and it would be great to get support/discuss stuff with other lds people. Thanks a lot
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LDS.net/forums does have a marriage advice section, not sure if that’s what you’re looking for. They are very TBM over there, and most talk about sex is forbidden. Avoid lds.net like the plague. The site is a crime against humanity. Sent from my SCH-I545 using Tapatalk
I agree partly with Cwald. At LDS.net there is a group of old-timers who are very caustic, go unmoderated, and it can hurt your sense of feeling part of the Mormon community — even if you are posting TBM stuff on which people post with personal opinion. I experienced it and after repeated nasty comments from people, that went unmoderated, I deregistered my profile. StayLDS is Zion compared to LDS.net when it comes to kindness and fair moderation.
If they still have a discussion forum, I would suggest you go to
http://www.marriagebuilders.com instead of StayLDS. Even without a forum, any materials he has there are well worth reading.The founder of the site is Willard Harley Junior. He is a Non-Mormon Christian and the approach to marriage saved mine years ago. I’ve found that I’ve been able to diagnose problems in marriages friends have shared with me using Harley’s framework of emotional needs. He has a few books worth reading — His Needs/Her Needs — the foundational book. One called Love Busters, and another that is a casebook of marriages he counseled and either solved or did not solve — but they show his methods. Often, he trains the spouses to meet each others most important emotional needs.
I saved my own marriage by learning to meet my own wife’s needs, while simply learning to live with my own needs unmet — a personal choice. But if your spouse, and you are both willing to learn how to love each other within the needs framework Harley has, I think his training is highly effective.
His is a very ACTIONABLE approach to helping marriages thrive. So, even though he’s not LDS, I would highly recommend his site as it is faith based, but not denominational. He sometimes quotes from the bible but not often.
I don’t disagree with you, cwald and SD, about LDS.net, I was banned from there for pretty tame stuff while those old timers you refer to can seem to say whatever they want, and the mods are actually the worst ones there. Generally I do stay away from there and the arrogant, completely close minded attitudes. ‘Nuf said. BUT, for what Bear seems to be looking for, it might fit the bill.
Is Faces East a match? That’s more when one spouse has a faith crisis, but maybe that’s related? LDSSexuality.com is a forum described as a place to promote and discuss healthy sexuality in LDS marriages. It is only lightly moderated and while most forum members seem similar to what you find on here, there are some traditional TBMs with rather categorical viewpoints, as well as some very liberal members–a small minority of which have experiences that are beyond the realm of what most would consider LDS-appropriate. Overall, it seems to be a helpful place with several thoughtful and genuine posts, but stay away from the “Non-Traditional” section (which requires a deliberate “opt-in” to read and join those discussions) if you have no interest in reading about activities that would likely lead to church discipline.
Themarriagebed.com touts itself as a Christian-based site to help married or soon-to-be-married Christians in areas of sexuality. Though they are Christian-based, they have fine print that indicates their forum is no place for non-Christians like Mormons, so probably don’t advertise your religion if you want to post or participate there. Most of the information discussed is conducive to and very similar to what most LDS people believe is appropriate for marriage.
StrengtheningMarriage.com is a site developed by LDS author and marriage counselor, Laura Brotherson.
LoveUnparalleled.com is an excellent site developed by the Oakland CA stake and offers a great deal of resources and some marriage help programs, though there is no forum associated with this site. Much of the content is based on information provided by LDS marriage therapists Natasha Parker and Jennifer Finlayson Fife.
Thanks a lot to all of you! 
I’ll look into all the sites you suggested. Thanks again:) staylds rocks. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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