Mormon’s Eat Their Own

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See, in my experience people will also default to “never give up”. “Keep trying”.

I think part of being a successful person is to know when to quit, when to find a new place to grow, where to apply your talents for the greatest impact. We only have so much time on this earth; best to place time and effort in places that will help you get the results you seek in the most efficient way possible.

in a way, it’s a moot point as I’ve never seen myself as a crusader for change in the LDS Church. It’s not a place I hope to change.

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SilentDawning wrote:

I think part of being a successful person is to know when to quit, when to find a new place to grow, where to apply your talents for the greatest impact. We only have so much time on this earth; best to place time and effort in places that will help you get the results you seek in the most efficient way possible.

in a way, it’s a moot point as I’ve never seen myself as a crusader for change in the LDS Church. It’s not a place I hope to change.

Exactly! One very reasonable solution is to distance yourself from being too emotionally involved. We talk all the time about boundaries. Once that emotional distance is established then one can better afford to quietly lobby for change without too much skin in the game.

I also respect people that decide to work in other portions of the garden (whether they continue to attend the LDS church or not). I pick my battles all the time and I can understand why some just don’t want to die on that “lobby for change” hill.

I agree that it can be a balance – and the optimal balance is always personal – but I can also imagine always being critical and never wanting to help in anything because – “Why should I? Nothing will ever change.” It is in that situation where I might become the “eater” of the organization.

I have gone through periods where I have been more bitter than others so I feel that this excercise of “Lord, is it I?” is not in vain for me. Setting boundaries is good and healthy to protect myself – but it is also possible to set so many boundaries as to isolate myself in my own little bubble of self concern. Working with others and letting them in will always be somewhat of a messy proposition. Sometimes it’s worth some risk.

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