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I’m a 29 year old graduate of BYU-Idaho. About 5 months ago my soon to be x-husband started looking into leaving the church. While this was the right decision for him, the faith crisis he threw me into was the worst thing that has ever happened in my life. I am here looking for either the golden egg that will make me believe again, or the moral support to deal with loosing everything that I was. I was a strong faithful member with power and influence. Now the one thing I was really good at is gone as I no longer know what to believe. I’m hoping the people here can help me stay in the church, and perhaps regain some of my confidence. I know I might never get my faith back, but if I could just get to a place where I actually felt like I could make friends and interact with other human beings again I would be happy. [Moderator note: Countrygirl444 has posted here in the intro section and in the support section. That’s fine. She explains herself in more detail in the support section and there are responses there as well. Feel free to comment and welcome this new user here and post comments about her questions on her other thread here:
http://forum.staylds.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=6223 ” class=”bbcode_url”> http://forum.staylds.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=6223 Welcome Countrygirl444! This is a safe and supportive place and I am glad that you found us.
I am pressed for time, but welcome! You will find people like yourself here. Go ahead and tell us a nit more if you don’t mind. And one short term suggestion – as hard as it is, calm down and don’t do anything rash. If the church is true it will be so in a few months.. if it isn’t, then it still won’t be in a few months. I know it is very hard (i have lived through the downward free fall myself)
LookingHard wrote:…And one short term suggestion – as hard as it is, calm down and don’t do anything rash. If the church is true it will be so in a few months.. if it isn’t, then it still won’t be in a few months. I know it is very hard (i have lived through the downward free fall myself)
I like this suggestion alot. Welcome to the forum. This is a good place to sort things out.
Countrygirl444, I’m going through the same thing, but have been married 30 years in the church and raised/raising 5 children, temple recommend holder (now expired), always with a calling, and dedicated visiting teacher (until recently) etc. I’ve had a faith crisis going on 8 or so years now. I’ve stayed but it hasn’t been easy. I feel like it was a part of my identity too and think I was pretty good at it. Now I don’t participate other than helping a Special Needs young man in Primary and attend Sac. Meeting. It’s been a lonely road since I hold back now in case I might spread the germ of unbelief somewhere. It is the worst time I’ve ever had while on this earth, so bad that I’ve thought of ending it. Something needs to be done to address the thousands of members in our same boat, if not then that’s just inhumane. I know I sound like I’m taking this way too serious to some that can just walk away. But when it’s your identity, how do you just walk away? Where does one walk to? So I hear you so very well, I wish I had answers. I guess we just need to support on places like this until someone comes up with a solution. If you want you could try Fair Mormon Support and visit their forum there. They might be able to help also. Welcome though and good luck!!!
I posted more in the other tread but I did want to stop by to say welcome. Tacenda’s post reminded me of a scripture that I look to for strength:
John 6:66-68 wrote:From that time many of his disciples went back, and walked no more with him. Then said Jesus unto the twelve, Will ye also go away? Then Simon Peter answered him,
Lord, to whom shall we go?thou hast the words of eternal life. Depending on the day I find myself feeling like just about everyone that’s present in that story. The people that left, the people that stay, even Jesus.
Welcome Countrygirl444.
LookingHard wrote:I am pressed for time, but welcome! You will find people like yourself here. Go ahead and tell us a nit more if you don’t mind.
And one short term suggestion – as hard as it is, calm down and don’t do anything rash. If the church is true it will be so in a few months.. if it isn’t, then it still won’t be in a few months. I know it is very hard (i have lived through the downward free fall myself)
I also find this excellent advice.Welcome, countrygirl444. You’ve had it very tough. I’ve read both threads, and while I haven’t been in the same situation as you, I can definitely emphasize. My FC was one of the lowest points of my life just a hair above my bout of severe depression I had when I was younger. I felt like I’d lost everything, like I would give absolutely anything in the world to be able to just forget and go back to being the person I was yesterday…the day before…the week before…the month before… And then I got to the point where I’m looking back now, and I can appreciate the peaceful place I’m in now that I wouldn’t be in if I hadn’t had to go through such a dark time. True, it’s not nearly the same peaceful place as before my FC. But just because it’s new, it doesn’t mean it’s bad. I’m still LDS. I still have a mission call assignment coming to me in the mail.
The path for you to StayLDS is likely not going to be fast or easy. You’ve been through what sounds like a lot of verbal abuse, and that recovery path can be long, so just take it step by step. You don’t have to go at it on your own. It sounds like you’re already taking some of the right steps by getting away from the negativity in your life, and that’s good.
Quote:“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” -Robin Williams
countrygirl444 wrote:I am here looking for either the golden egg that will make me believe again, or the moral support to deal with loosing everything that I was.
welcome, countrygirl444.My advice is to start to read and find ways to avoid the all or nothing conditions of your search. You will likely not find the golden egg, and I promise you that you don’t have to lose everything.
God wants you to progress, line upon line.
Welcome to the forum. Ask lots of questions, share lots of thoughts. Glad you joined the conversations. I look forward to learning from your posts.
Welcome! Quote:My advice is to start to read and find ways to avoid the all or nothing conditions of your search. You will likely not find the golden egg, and I promise you that you don’t have to lose everything.
This.
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