Just as an update to where I am now, I would still say my top item is that “I don’t feel God in this church.” All the rest I would summarize as:
(a) I have lost any assumption that the church leaders are inspired of God and
(b) the church just doesn’t “work” for me – the fruits are not good enough to warrant continuing to give it the place in my life that it has had.
All the other items I listed are still issues, but they are the details.