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Thanks all. I’m very lucky to have such an awesome mother. Summarising the gist of her reply:
Quote:When I pray for you, I pray that He will guide and direct your thoughts and thought processes. From what I have read, I believe He has and is doing that! I love you and I love your capacity to express so lucidly the profoundly deep and important thoughts and feelings you have experienced
To those of you whose families aren’t so empathetic, I’m sorry the process is so much more tough for you. I thought of you cwald in this process. I wish that everyone could lead with love. Perhaps people always do, especially family members, they just communicate it badly and believe that their opposition to a ‘middle-way’ is their way of expressing love.
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Very – very cool response from your mom! mackay11 wrote:To those of you whose families aren’t so empathetic, I’m sorry the process is so much more tough for you. I thought of you cwald in this process. I wish that everyone could lead with love. Perhaps people always do, especially family members, they just communicate it badly and believe that their opposition to a ‘middle-way’ is their way of expressing love.
My in-laws are like this. I frame it in terms of “love languages.” They do not speak DW’s love language. They also seem deaf to requests for displays of DW’s love language. Sometimes they even seem to get indignant – as though DW should be grateful for the displays of love that she receives in their language. The relationship is very strained. I suppose it is hard for most of us to see the beams in our own eye.
Thank God for understanding people, especially parents. As you said, it’s exponentially harder without them. I’m Happy for you Gideon. I hope everyone can come to a state were fear does not move or define them or there actions.
It’s not easy as by nature humans seek approval by authority figures.
What I find is that first one must respect and love ones self to sustain giving love to others.
But one can not love when one is in fear, hate or anger. So people cannot do things out of love for others while in fear.
Fear is an unstinted force when it is an effect, and love is an immovable object.
When the 2 meet it goes nowhere, love can not enter while in fear and fear can not enter while love abides in you.
But it can keep each at bay. So love can be used to block fear from entering and taking hold. Like wise until fear subsides love Can not enter. So the best way to stifle of off fear, hate anger,(really same base Emotion) is to keep love in heart as best as one can. Doing things out of fear? Teaching fear?! Is to teach against and to replace love inside oneself.
mackay11 wrote:I wish that everyone could lead with love.
Amen, Amen. Amen. …..Amen!
When I get frustrated with my fellow men it is usually related to this in some way. …people leading with fear or selfishness.
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