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Roadrunner wrote:
My $0.02.
Worth way more than $0,02!I wonder if this will happen to me before too long. I expect the same to happen since every time I have talked with my wife she has been upset about my FC. She didn’t even like me mentioning it in a positive way in church.
The last few posts made me wonder. I’d be curious to know: How often do you want to talk about your faith transition?
How often do you think your spouse wants to talk about your faith transition?
Communication is important in a relationship. A relationship can be strained when one person feels like they can’t share a rather large aspect of themselves and it can be strained when one person feels cornered into talking about things that they are uncomfortable with.
I suspect couples where one person eventually becomes exhausted because the other only wants to talk about their faith transition would answer those questions in much the same way as a couple where one person prevents the conversation from ever occurring in the first place. Two very different scenarios.
Maybe “Do you feel validated by your spouse?” is at the heart of the matter.
nibbler wrote:The last few posts made me wonder. I’d be curious to know:
How often do you want to talk about your faith transition?
often
Quote:How often do you think your spouse wants to talk about your faith transition?.
never. She wishes it didn’t exist and I think she feels if she ignores it, it will go away (she does this with many other issues).
Quote:Communication is important in a relationship. A relationship can be strained when one person feels like they can’t share a rather large aspect of themselves and it can be strained when one person feels cornered into talking about things that they are uncomfortable with.
Quote:I suspect couples where one person eventually becomes exhausted because the other only wants to talk about their faith transition would answer those questions in much the same way as a couple where one person prevents the conversation from ever occurring in the first place. Two very different scenarios.
I could see this happening, but not in my marriage. In the middle of my FC I didn’t want to put my wife through the emotional wringer. I have not pushed others on “you need to know your history”. I probably push harder here than anywhere else.
Quote:Maybe “Do you feel validated by your spouse?” is at the heart of the matter.
No – but No even outside of this topic. I do feel my wife feels most things in life are “her way or the wrong way.”
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