Personal contact NOM request

[Anonymous]

I was reading a NOM link posted at Faces East:

http://forum.newordermormon.org/viewtopic.php?t=14745

All_no-ing said: “She wants me back as I was before, and I don’t know how to make that happen. I can be kind, moral, honest, loving – all those good things – but I can’t live a lie for the rest of my life.”

As I read that I remembered feeling the EXACT same thing at one point just over a couple years ago. I don’t know All_no-ing, what he’s comfortable with and what his personal goals are, but I would like to be available to talk with him if he is honestly seeking a way to create a new and honest relationship with the church. Even if it’s only for his family’s sake.

I promised my wife I would stay off NOM (years ago – so I have no user account there, I think it’s different with my current perspective but I digress)

So what I’m asking is if someone would like to share this point with All_no-ing: that I was there and my desire to find a way to “make it work” has led me here – I feel honest, I feel happy, my wife is happy, everything is good – and if he wants to email me at OrsonLDS@gmail.com or come here to chat I’d love to talk with him.

I realize that most people who say that don’t actually have the goals that I had, but I like to throw it out just in case.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I sent this via PM at NOM to All_no-ing:

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Hey All_no-ing,

I saw your post here on NOM. I have a friend who goes by “Orson” at various places around the world of Internet Mormonism. He promised his wife he would not hang around at NOM as part of their back-and-forth negotiations they went through to avoid divorce and all that heartache.

He was in your exact same shoes about 2 years ago. I would guess that you two share a lot of the same views, having extremely hardcore TBM spouses. He has pretty much made it work though, and found ways to be authentic to his beliefs and keep his family together. He hasn’t lost his doubts, but instead found ways to become more comfortable with them and put his wife more at ease.

I mentioned your post to him, and he immediately offered to talk to you if you want. It’s something that he hates to see break up families. Disaffection shouldn’t do that.

If you want to talk to him to get any ideas, or just talk to someone who at least understands, his email is:

OrsonLDS@gmail.com

He posts sometimes at FacesEast, and also participates at StayLDS, sharing his perspective from the less-than-literal believing side.

[Anonymous]

Cool, thanks Brian.

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